Hello all. I found this board by using search engines, trying to find a way to save my relationship.
We've been "officially together" since March, which is when we moved in together. Before that we spent two years shifting from being friends, to more than friends, back to friends, to enemies, to friends again. Rinse. Repeat.
When we shacked up things were looking up. She fawned over me at the time. Did little things for me, like cooking breakfast. And we had kickass sex all the time. Things have changed.
Now we have sex maybe once a month. And it's not even good. At all. She'll say she's come within a a few minutes, then expect me to hurry up and finish before she gets tired.
I'd be lying if I said I was disappointed in the fact that we rarely **** anymore. She's become something... I'm not sure what to call her, but she's not who she was. She's become somewhat lazy, to put it mildly.
For starters, she's stopped shaving her legs. When I question her about it, she just says that deep down, she's "really a hippie". Whatever. I don't like hippies, and besides that, her behaviour is more akin to that of a bag lady.
Sometimes she'll go the whole weekend without showering. Like, from Friday morning, until Monday morning. She used to be a clean freak, and took no less than two showers a day.
She usually doesn't brush her teeth before going to bed. God only knows how I deal with her breath, should she roll over and snore in my general direction. Of course she'll just ***** at me the next morning, should I decide to sleep on the couch.
She eats too ****ing much. Literally more than I do, and I work out like a freak. She's getting ****ing big, and the last time I tried taking her for a walk, she was winded only a few blocks away from our house.
She does absolutely none of the house work, other than cleaning up after her cat. The sink is overflowing with dishes, and I'd gladly do them, if I hadn't been the only one to wash them the last two weeks. All she does is sit around and smoke pot, watch TV, and sleep. That is, when she's not stuffing her face with potato chips and ice cream.
She's a straight up ***** 90% of the time. She seriously tried getting into a ****ing argument with me over hand soap the one time. ****ing hand soap! Everything I do is wrong. The music I listen to is stupid. I'm a nerd. We don't spend enough time together (and if I do spend time with her, it's limited to watching the ****ing television). I don't even bother fighting with her anymore. I'm too busy laughing at how ****ing retarded she sounds half the time, and that only infuriates her further, which I find even more amusing. Ahh....
And she's absolutely **** with money. She somehow makes more than I do, plus her parents give her a ton of money every month, and she's still always broke. I'm always having to bail her out. Then she gets pissed off when I ask for her to pay me back, always using the excuse that we're a couple as the reason for her resusal to owe up.
Even before she turned into a complete mess, she was being an ******* about sex. She was always "not in the mood", complaining about a low sex drive. Doesn't stop her from masturbating all the time (she's sometimes too lazy to pack her porn away, and I find it in the DVD player).
She tried having a heart to heart with me the other day about it. Most of it I didn't bother paying attention to, but the basic point she struggled to make was that having sex reminds her of how fat she's gotten, which is just great! Maybe one of these days she'll put the bong down (and the bag of chips too), and do something about it, instead of take it out on me.
So I don't know. I might be willing to deal with it, since I've been getting a lot of late night video gaming in, which is just ****ing A-OK with me, and pretend like everything is fine (like my dad), if only she wasn't costing me so much money.
We've been "officially together" since March, which is when we moved in together. Before that we spent two years shifting from being friends, to more than friends, back to friends, to enemies, to friends again. Rinse. Repeat.
When we shacked up things were looking up. She fawned over me at the time. Did little things for me, like cooking breakfast. And we had kickass sex all the time. Things have changed.
Now we have sex maybe once a month. And it's not even good. At all. She'll say she's come within a a few minutes, then expect me to hurry up and finish before she gets tired.
I'd be lying if I said I was disappointed in the fact that we rarely **** anymore. She's become something... I'm not sure what to call her, but she's not who she was. She's become somewhat lazy, to put it mildly.
For starters, she's stopped shaving her legs. When I question her about it, she just says that deep down, she's "really a hippie". Whatever. I don't like hippies, and besides that, her behaviour is more akin to that of a bag lady.
Sometimes she'll go the whole weekend without showering. Like, from Friday morning, until Monday morning. She used to be a clean freak, and took no less than two showers a day.
She usually doesn't brush her teeth before going to bed. God only knows how I deal with her breath, should she roll over and snore in my general direction. Of course she'll just ***** at me the next morning, should I decide to sleep on the couch.
She eats too ****ing much. Literally more than I do, and I work out like a freak. She's getting ****ing big, and the last time I tried taking her for a walk, she was winded only a few blocks away from our house.
She does absolutely none of the house work, other than cleaning up after her cat. The sink is overflowing with dishes, and I'd gladly do them, if I hadn't been the only one to wash them the last two weeks. All she does is sit around and smoke pot, watch TV, and sleep. That is, when she's not stuffing her face with potato chips and ice cream.
She's a straight up ***** 90% of the time. She seriously tried getting into a ****ing argument with me over hand soap the one time. ****ing hand soap! Everything I do is wrong. The music I listen to is stupid. I'm a nerd. We don't spend enough time together (and if I do spend time with her, it's limited to watching the ****ing television). I don't even bother fighting with her anymore. I'm too busy laughing at how ****ing retarded she sounds half the time, and that only infuriates her further, which I find even more amusing. Ahh....
And she's absolutely **** with money. She somehow makes more than I do, plus her parents give her a ton of money every month, and she's still always broke. I'm always having to bail her out. Then she gets pissed off when I ask for her to pay me back, always using the excuse that we're a couple as the reason for her resusal to owe up.
Even before she turned into a complete mess, she was being an ******* about sex. She was always "not in the mood", complaining about a low sex drive. Doesn't stop her from masturbating all the time (she's sometimes too lazy to pack her porn away, and I find it in the DVD player).
She tried having a heart to heart with me the other day about it. Most of it I didn't bother paying attention to, but the basic point she struggled to make was that having sex reminds her of how fat she's gotten, which is just great! Maybe one of these days she'll put the bong down (and the bag of chips too), and do something about it, instead of take it out on me.
So I don't know. I might be willing to deal with it, since I've been getting a lot of late night video gaming in, which is just ****ing A-OK with me, and pretend like everything is fine (like my dad), if only she wasn't costing me so much money.
