Should I bother asking her out again?

[the_stig]

Went on a date Tuesday (from POF) and we had some chemistry, spent about 3-4 hours together, changed venues once to a sports bar to watch a baseball game and have dinner. No kino but some flirting. I drop her off at her car, she says she doesn't kiss on the first date but gives me a kiss on the cheek, looks me in the eyes and firmly says "I had a good time, we should go out again". I said "deal" and we finished our goodbyes.

She is a baseball fan and wanted me to check out her sports blog. I did, and since we got in a few playful disagreements about our baseball team, I texted her the next day saying "Nice blog, you just need to post some new entries for me to harp on " and she didn't reply. I don't think my text was that bad. Should I try again and straight ask her out since I have nothing to lose, or just take that as a lack of interest and move on?

 

[runner83]

Went on a date Tuesday (from POF) and we had some chemistry, spent about 3-4 hours together, changed venues once to a sports bar to watch a baseball game and have dinner. No kino but some flirting. I drop her off at her car, she says she doesn't kiss on the first date but gives me a kiss on the cheek, looks me in the eyes and firmly says "I had a good time, we should go out again". I said "deal" and we finished our goodbyes.

She is a baseball fan and wanted me to check out her sports blog. I did, and since we got in a few playful disagreements about our baseball team, I texted her the next day saying "Nice blog, you just need to post some new entries for me to harp on " and she didn't reply. I don't think my text was that bad. Should I try again and straight ask her out since I have nothing to lose, or just take that as a lack of interest and move on?

Does a woman say she doesn't kiss on the first date to a guy she is attracted to?

Heck no! Kino is essential.

I suspect low attraction.

Your text, she may have thought you were paying out her blog (open to misinterpretation).

Depending on your other options, no harm in trying to meet up again. If she doesn't answer your text when you do this, you'll have your answer.

 

[1 Bad Dude]

I texted her the next day saying...

Why did you do this?

...post some new entries for me to harp on

Okay. You checked out her blog(immediately), posted on it(immediately) and had to text her to let her know you did(immediately)? Why do YOU think she didn't reply?

You're a sports/baseball guy so it's cool that you want to check it out, but you should have been too busy to do it right away. And you certainly should not have posted on it. And you definitely should not have texted her to tell her you did. Good luck on asking her out again. Even if she goes, her defenses are on high alert now that you've displayed obsession/desperation towards her.

You should have waited a few days to text her. And it should have been less "lets talk" and more "lets do something." Something like: "cool blog. lets go to the batting-cages/mini-golf/something-actiony this saturday." She should have been wondering when/if you were going to check out the blog. Also, when she's already going out with you don't use text to converse and build rapport. Keep everything in person whenever possible.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Totally agree with both responses.

When they are interested enough, they will break their own rules. When they are not interested, they will make up rules (lie to you).

I would just wait it out. My guess is she won't contact you, but don't sweat it. Consider this a lesson learned.

 

[Allurre]

Sure sign of low interest level. If a woman ever says something along those lines, she just isn't feeling that real chemistry/burning attraction yet.

What I'd do if I were you is to wait for her to initiate contact. See if she's really interested. If not, move on to the next one, or check on her again after 1-2 weeks.