"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Should I be worried about this?

brian123

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Met this girl about 2 months ago. We've been seeing each other 1-2/wk. This have been going good. Sleeping together once/week. I have been seeing other girls in this time period, but am really beginning to like her and want a relationship with her.

This last 2 weeks she has been out of town alot and havent gotten to see her (grandmother passed away + other family stuff). I spoke to her this week and she said how'd she'd love to see me this weekend etc....

Today when I was out for st paddy's day, I asked her where she was via txt (no response). Tonight I was out to the bar with some buddies of mine and she approached a friend of mine while I was at the bar getting drinks and she waited for me, and we talked for a bit. She had to run off with one of her girlfriends, and a bit later she txt'd me asking me where I was.

She came over to see me, and we hugged and cuddled and everything, until her friend wanted to go to a different bar. I could tell something was off with the girl I like. She was dressed a bit more provocative and I seemed to be putting more effort into things than she was.

Anyways she left with her friend, and I didnt hear anymore from her for the night.


Just wondering if I am freaking out over nothing, or what.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It was a fling and it is is over... you see the signs but you dont want to face them... Time to move on to the next ho.. she has moved on to many a ****... You took to long to telll her you wanted more than just a fling so she kept on hoing and you kept being a player which is what happens any way even if you get into a relationship.
 

brian123

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You could very well be right dude. I always thought it was the girl who was the one who was supposed to have the relationship talk though?
 

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brian123 said:
Met this girl about 2 months ago. We've been seeing each other 1-2/wk. This have been going good. Sleeping together once/week. I have been seeing other girls in this time period, but am really beginning to like her and want a relationship with her.

This last 2 weeks she has been out of town alot and havent gotten to see her (grandmother passed away + other family stuff). I spoke to her this week and she said how'd she'd love to see me this weekend etc....

Today when I was out for st paddy's day, I asked her where she was via txt (no response). Tonight I was out to the bar with some buddies of mine and she approached a friend of mine while I was at the bar getting drinks and she waited for me, and we talked for a bit. She had to run off with one of her girlfriends, and a bit later she txt'd me asking me where I was.

She came over to see me, and we hugged and cuddled and everything, until her friend wanted to go to a different bar. I could tell something was off with the girl I like. She was dressed a bit more provocative and I seemed to be putting more effort into things than she was.

Anyways she left with her friend, and I didnt hear anymore from her for the night.

Just wondering if I am freaking out over nothing, or what.
You are not in a relationship with her and you are seeing other girls while sleeping with her. There's not much to freak out about if she doesn't give you 110% of her love and kisses to you one night.
 
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