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Should I be friends with this girl?

CapitalSteeze47

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I blew my chance with this girl because I was too shy and lack confidence to talk to her. The signs of interest were there such as long eye contact to the point she looks down or turns away, half smiles, glances, and stares from afar. etc this was every time i had class with her and only did this to me. I made her wait a year, I know I mess up big time. I added her on snapchat and she accepted. we chatted couple of times she will sometimes ignore my messages and other times respond. I decided to ask her out through text (I know is a coward way but had no other choice) over the summer to hang out since I wanted to get over it, I explain why i made her wait and said i was shy, etc. She rejected me with the boyfriend line. There is no boyfriend from what i can tell, I check her social media before asking her out so I won't waste my time on her.

I'mat a new school and we saw each other again. At first she was ignoring me like I don't exist when I was around her. Later on the school semester she tends to see me or glance at me from time to time. I try not to look at her and ignore her in person since she started acting like that but I think mess up. I also ignored her snapchat stories at times. She tried to message me on snapchat one time, it said her name typing... but no message. I guess she wanted to reach out but decided not to. She is never with a guy around campus mainly by herself.

In person she would look from afar but up close she looks straight or to the floor always when I'm around with a neutral face. Last time i saw her she was walking slow and look at me straight at my face then look to the ground with a neutral face. I don't know what's wrong with her makes me feel I did something horrible to her. Maybe because I hurt her pride/ego and made her wait so long and thought I was a player Should I be friends with this girl? I have not chat with her for awhile since May, so I been neutral with her. Is there anyway to spark the interest again? I'm going to try and talk to her in person since we never had a conversation in person only through text. I was thinking being persistent but to the point where is not creepy/stalker vibe just a friendly level and seeing where it goes. Of course I will be talking to other girls. Anyone has been in my position before?
 

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Been there, done that. Quit before it gets more embarrassing. One day in the future when you have a lot more experience you'll look back and facepalm yourself so fvcking hard.

Stop this right now, think about every part you messed up on, find another girl and try not making the same mistakes again. Whatever you do with this girl will inevitably end in extreme awkwardness.

Trust me, you don't really want to take this to the bitter end.
 

TheFixer14

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Why would you want to be friends with her? Life isn't how I met your mother.
 

Reykhel

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"I blew my chance with this girl..."

This is an awful mindset. You've got a long road ahead of you. But that's okay, you're young.

You need to focus on personal growth and personal mastery in all aspects of your life. To get the girl? No. Fvck this bytch. For your survival and advancement in this world. Because if you don't change this phaggot mindset you're going to suffer greatly, over and over again.

You want to develop your confidence, self worth, self belief so much and create such an interesting, fun and successful life that your thought pattern naturally changes to:

"That dumb bytch messed up her chance with me"

And to have such an abundance of positive energy inside you that you genuinely feel EMPATHY for her..

"She's not going to get to experience me. I feel bad for her"

This **** takes time. I don't believe in a fake it till you make it belief. Self development is an on going process that requires daily application. Plant, cultivate and harvest.

You want to fvck a girl? You can't think your way into her panties. Got to take action: WHO dares wins.

"Do the thing and you shall have the power" Emerson.

The "doing " develops your confidence
 

RangerMIke

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Move on... you know what you did wrong... learn and do not repeat. All women are the same, she is not a special snowflake... go find another.

Do not waste one more day thinking about her. Work on yourself and life and try to be rhe best man you can be and the women think just works itself out.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

Ratiocinative

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Never be close friends with a woman. Be close friends with other men. Being casual friends with women and having fun with them at social events is great, but one on one time with a woman should be for the purpose of pursuing a sexual relationship.

For example, one of the women in my mma classes I asked out, she no. If she comes up to me or we get partnered up for drilling then I joke around, have fun, flirt playfully, but I don't text her, I don't add her on social media, I don't ask her about her day, or anything like that a friend would do.

Once you've demonstrated weak behaviour around a woman it is extremely difficult to attract her. Just move on, plenty of woman out there for you to meet and not make the same mistakes with.
 

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You obviously have your a chance because she seems to be highly interested in you, buddy. Go ahead and talk to her in person. Your unearthly presence will knock her out!! (NOT)

This is the third thread you have created this month — all pertaining to the same situation/girl. Though you were advised to move on on both of the threads, you seem to have refused to accept the fact that she is not interested and have created yet another thread concerning the same girl. You are asking for the opinions of the members of the community but are hell-bent on not changing your opinion about the situation, clear-cut from your threads. My advice, again, move on. That's not what you want to hear but what you need to hear.
 

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You obviously have your a chance because she seems to be highly interested in you, buddy. Go ahead and talk to her in person. Your unearthly presence will knock her out!! (NOT)

This is the third thread you have created this month — all pertaining to the same situation/girl. Though you were advised to move on on both of the threads, you seem to have refused to accept the fact that she is not interested and have created yet another thread concerning the same girl. You are asking for the opinions of the members of the community but are hell-bent on not changing your opinion about the situation, clear-cut from your threads. My advice, again, move on. That's not what you want to hear but what you need to hear.
Each time you visit this point, your mojo, confidence and proper response dims and dims and dims more... Go somewhere you will have success. Perhaps if you get polished up by another babe she will take a liking.
 

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Each time you visit this point, your mojo, confidence and proper response dims and dims and dims more... Go somewhere you will have success. Perhaps if you get polished up by another babe she will take a liking.
My response is pretty much the same — move on — though worded differently. I have no idea what you're talking about.
 

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My response is pretty much the same — move on — though worded differently. I have no idea what you're talking about.
Every time he goes up against a guaranteed rejection or failure it will reduce his mojo or confidence just a little more. Deal with females who WANT you.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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Every time he goes up against a guaranteed rejection or failure it will reduce his mojo or confidence just a little more. Deal with females who WANT you.
Thought your comment was directed at me instead, my bad! And yeah, couldn't agree more. Moving on and finding someone else is better than sleepless nights spent wondering what this girl is thinking.
 
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