Should I be concerned?

[pete101]

You know the saying is to avoid women who have only male friends and no female friends. What about the 1s who have a few very close female friends and mainly guy friends?

Does this make a difference? She openly admitted in her match.com msg to me that was what it was cos she found it easier to get on with guys cos girls see her as a rival.

Should this ring alarm bells for me?

 

[The LadyKiller]

It's shaky ground. I don't have a definite answer here, but I have tried dating a girl who sounded extremely similar. It didn't work out. She seemed a little too "close" to her guy friends, and you know the guys are around her because they are hoping they get lucky. If a girl has a couple of guy friends, so be it. But if a majority of her friends are guys, problems might arise for both of you. On your end, it's paranoia; what are the other guys doing!?

Again, I don't have a lot of experience in this area, but the experience(s) I've had don't end well.

 

[Scars]

They have this saying for a reason.

My BPD ex used to tell me the same thing. She was actually pretty convincing her in her argument too. Saying that most girls are catty, and backstabbing (reinforcing my already belief that most women are evil, and playing off the emotional hatred I have towards my mother). Needless to say, that relationship didn't just end bad, it was a disaster. Her having mostly male friends is just bad news. Even if you trust her, you can't trust these other guys. All guys are looking to get laid, they hold no loyalty grounds unless you are extremely tight with them (chances are, you don't know her "friends", or have only met them only a couple times). It opens opportunities to cheating, or if anything, opens arguments simply speculating on the fantasy of cheating. It's just bad news.

I don't want to diagnose this girl as a borderline, as I don't personally know her. But in my case with my ex, I found out that she despised females not only because of her mother, but also because she saw them as "competition". She needed constant supply of love, affection, and attention. If she had any female friends, they were extremely ugly. It takes the attention away from her. She was that insecure with herself.

You met this girl on an online dating site. Chances are, she's probably got a couple of screws loose. Harsh, but true. There's a reason she had to resort to the internet to meet men. There IS something wrong with her. You might just have identified it, and can save yourself the trouble before it even starts.

This girl is a pump and dump, if ANYTHING.

-Scars

 

[Aaron B]

as long as she is willing to come along with your program and jump through your hoops, i wouldn't worry about it

that's early on when you are free to see other people

if you decide to restrict yourself to just her vagina, you may at that time set a standard that your vagina isn't allowed to spend one-on-one time with other guys and she will have to follow that, or you will dump it and spend time with other vaginas

reality is that in the vast majority of cases, these are lame nice guys who are ashamed to express themselves to her sexually and have settled for the friends role, even though they want to be with her. when she experiences your awesomeness then spends time with these nice guys, it actually makes you look even better because they are so lame by comparison

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Most girls that I know who only hang out with guys are a little bit screwed up in the head. (Bipolars, attention wh0res etc..) I have a few girls like this who I am friends with too.. One of them I hooked up with a few times. Most of these girls will talk to me and another friend of mine about the guys they go on dates with and call them "creepy" for paying for the whole meal. These conversations get pretty fvckin hillarious.

I'd say just try it out, and if you get a feeling in the pit of your stomach, then abandon ship! Take a good look at her guy friends too.. If they're total AFC beta chumps, then they're not getting anywhere with the girl.

 

[5string]

They have this saying for a reason.

My BPD ex used to tell me the same thing. She was actually pretty convincing her in her argument too. Saying that most girls are catty, and backstabbing (reinforcing my already belief that most women are evil, and playing off the emotional hatred I have towards my mother). Needless to say, that relationship didn't just end bad, it was a disaster. Her having mostly male friends is just bad news. Even if you trust her, you can't trust these other guys. All guys are looking to get laid, they hold no loyalty grounds unless you are extremely tight with them (chances are, you don't know her "friends", or have only met them only a couple times). It opens opportunities to cheating, or if anything, opens arguments simply speculating on the fantasy of cheating. It's just bad news.

I don't want to diagnose this girl as a borderline, as I don't personally know her. But in my case with my ex, I found out that she despised females not only because of her mother, but also because she saw them as "competition". She needed constant supply of love, affection, and attention. If she had any female friends, they were extremely ugly. It takes the attention away from her. She was that insecure with herself.

You met this girl on an online dating site. Chances are, she's probably got a couple of screws loose. Harsh, but true. There's a reason she had to resort to the internet to meet men. There IS something wrong with her. You might just have identified it, and can save yourself the trouble before it even starts.

This girl is a pump and dump, if ANYTHING.

-Scars

Listen to Scars! :yes: