"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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um... well.... i have been close to this girl for some time, in fact, we talk almost every day, and she AIMS me constantly... she asked me out to junior prom, and she's very nice. Well... i'm wondering what i should do after prom... She told me earlier that she usually accepts when guys ask her out, but she actually dumped one of my friends earlier in high school.... Should i ask her out?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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from the sounds of this, I think your deep in the friend zone. If shes telling you about her and guys, your in the friend zone. when you say close, do u mean u talk to her a lot, or have hooked up with her? if you hadn't hooked up with her, your the friend dude.
 

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maybe youll hook up with her at junior prom, but don't count on it. after that you can ask her out, but I think your knee deep in the friend zone. This sounds quite familiar to something that happened to me.
 
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Hey dude, your in <play twilite zone theme> the "FRIEND ZONE". Yea I ve been there too, we all have, as hard as it is move on, give her up as friend she will only hurt you. Heres what I try to do to keep myself out of it, set up a date with in 2-3 times of meeting her, and if you strike out the first time go to the next girl. To successuly be a DJ you cannot let yourself get attached, thats the bottom line.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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conandoyle said:
um... well.... i have been close to this girl for some time, in fact, we talk almost every day, and she AIMS me constantly... she asked me out to junior prom, and she's very nice. Well... i'm wondering what i should do after prom... She told me earlier that she usually accepts when guys ask her out, but she actually dumped one of my friends earlier in high school.... Should i ask her out?

Hmm... going to have to disagree with the two before me, personally I feel like this girl wants you.

Lets take a look, SHE asked you to junior prom, SHE im's you constantly, SHE told you she accepts when "guys" ask her out (hint hint).

So, take a chance, go on a few dates, see where it goes.
 

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I agree with Touchout. Anyway, even if we're wrong, you'll know where you stand, and won't waste time with this girl anymore.
 
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