Should i ask her out? Girl i work with.

[lion051]

I got this chick i work with who I'm fairly sure digs me, alway giving eye contact, smiling, winking etc. She tries to find reasons for us to hang out like asking me to drop her home, telling me about this Kareokee club she works and asking me to stop by etc.

The thing is the last chick i dated that i worked with wound up being a sociopath (lol..). When i told her i didn't want to date her anymore (kind of cussed her out to). She went nuts, and told me she would: "Make my job a living hell". Which she did, its a good thing she resigned...

Anyway, this one seems nice enough. But I've learned the way females look and act can be deceiving. What if she freaks out as well? Plus i think the general consensus in the seduction community it not to date females you work with (or am i wrong)? Can't really find any advice on this on the website. What do you guys think?

The thing is, to me its not really that big a deal. I just don't want to get into the habit of making excuses not to act, and i feel kind of sorry for her, and i want to save money lol...i dunno man.

 

[Tamura]

never **** the company or never shyte where you eat

i've been through this and let me tell you as enjoyable it is as long everything runs smooth it turns into absolute hell once things go downhill

it's not worth it, believe me

 

[kingofthelions]

I got this chick i work with who I'm fairly sure digs me, alway giving eye contact, smiling, winking etc. She tries to find reasons for us to hang out like asking me to drop her home, telling me about this Kareokee club she works and asking me to stop by etc.

The thing is the last chick i dated that i worked with wound up being a sociopath (lol..). When i told her i didn't want to date her anymore (kind of cussed her out to). She went nuts, and told me she would: "Make my job a living hell". Which she did, its a good thing she resigned...

Anyway, this one seems nice enough. But I've learned the way females look and act can be deceiving. What if she freaks out as well? Plus i think the general consensus in the seduction community it not to date females you work with (or am i wrong)? Can't really find any advice on this on the website. What do you guys think?

The thing is, to me its not really that big a deal. I just don't want to get into the habit of making excuses not to act, and i feel kind of sorry for her, and i want to save money lol...i dunno man.

If you got something serious going on like a career i wouldn't do it, but thats just me. If shes feeling you which it sounds like she is, things can get territorial once you start ****ing. jealously is going to kick in if you have that "IT" factor with other women at the work place and thats when the problems will develop. On top of that what happens if you guys fall out over something and she maybe in a position of power etc. Be very careful just speaking from personal experience "MOB"

 

[Atom Smasher]

No matter how nice a woman at work seems, 99% of them will try to exact revenge on you if they feel slighted by you. Some will do it consciously and some subconsciously, but they WILL do it.

I advise to never, ever involve oneself in a workplace romance.

 

[ERB]

OP, go the the DJ Bible and read it. When you are done read it again.

Do not date at work. You did before and got lucky when she resigned.

 

[GeniuzKhrist]

I belong to the small percentage of people here that think it's okay to date someone you work with, if it's just a job and not a career, meaning if you make 60,000+ then you should probably just focus on yourself or another girl(s). But if its some run of the mill job then i say go for it. People will tell you not to do it because it'll ruin your job etc. but plenty of people have lost their job because of relationship problems with their spouse who doesn't work with them. The trick is to make sure you remain really casual with the woman for a extended amount of time before becoming serious, and 6 moments before you think it could be serious you should be looking for another job. As a matter of a fact we all should be looking for better, high paying jobs.

All in all, go for what you think is right, it's a coin flip

 

[Asmodeus]

You understand the risks? You are making a judgment, but you must understand the risk and reward of every choice fully before you invest in your actions. I think your infatuation blinds your logic.
Let me explain, if you date her and it ends on a bad note you are going to have to deal with her every day. Not only that, every day at work which will add to the stress of your work environment. If she is a vindictive type then it can get very bad. Also, dating a girl from your work makes your work situation more complicated. Imagine having to tell her to get work done or trying to not let your emotion get in the way of the two of you working together making you potentially less effective at doing your job. I can go on and on, but I think other people have covered it (in the DJ bible it has been covered extensively).
Thus, almost objectively there are significant risks here, and the reward is just a woman and you can find women all over the place that would carry less risk. This is why I suggest you do not date a girl from your work. But it is your life, and ultimately your choices.

 

[Dingo]

Tough call.... Many good relationships start at the workplace.

 

[devilkingx2]

Why would you do it again if it was a huge disaster the last time you did it?