Should I ask girl out via facebook?

[TheWanderer88]

situation- want to ask out a girl I'm facebook friends with on a date or to hang out or whatever. Haven't talked to her in ages but we kinda knew each other a long time ago and I think she might have liked me then.

problem- I did this exact thing with a different girl last week that I also hadn't seen in a long time, and got rejected. and it sucked, a lot. Killed a lot of my confidence.

what should I do? risk it again? or something else? or forget her?

 

[Maximus Rex]

situation- want to ask out a girl I'm facebook friends with on a date or to hang out or whatever. Haven't talked to her in ages but we kinda knew each other a long time ago and I think she might have liked me then.

problem- I did this exact thing with a different girl last week that I also hadn't seen in a long time, and got rejected. and it sucked, a lot. Killed a lot of my confidence.

what should I do? risk it again? or something else? or forget her?

"Insanity is to do the samething over and over expecting a different result."-Albert Einsten

 

[NewJack]

Yes. Do it.

Just always do everything with girls you feel inclined to. I'm not being sarcastic, and not even bombastic or deliberately provocative. Always do everything you feel inclined to. Write to her. If another strikes your fancy next week, write to her. Maybe try to avoid getting busted for stalking, but hey, what happens happens.

Don't let the shiny blue boxes on this website fool you. If anyone here had a working strategy, they wouldn't be here. We're a ship of fools. I'm not kidding, even advanced guys can't predict situations or know how things will work out. Anyone who believes in a strategy, doesn't know a fvcking thing about real life. That's one of many paradoxes in operation here. No one knows how to deal with facebook messaging girls you like, its a fvcking conundrum. So what are you gonna do? Work on a strategy? Or just "keep doing whatever the fvck you want" ? Mastery is, in my view: "Ok, I'm just gonna keep on doing whatever the fvck I want..."

 

[TheWanderer88]

Yes. Do it.

Just always do everything with girls you feel inclined to. I'm not being sarcastic, and not even bombastic or deliberately provocative. Always do everything you feel inclined to. Write to her. If another strikes your fancy next week, write to her. Maybe try to avoid getting busted for stalking, but hey, what happens happens.

Don't let the shiny blue boxes on this website fool you. If anyone here had a working strategy, they wouldn't be here. We're a ship of fools. I'm not kidding, even advanced guys can't predict situations or know how things will work out. Anyone who believes in a strategy, doesn't know a fvcking thing about real life. That's one of many paradoxes in operation here. No one knows how to deal with facebook messaging girls you like, its a fvcking conundrum. So what are you gonna do? Work on a strategy? Or just "keep doing whatever the fvck you want" ? Mastery is, in my view: "Ok, I'm just gonna keep on doing whatever the fvck I want..."

I know I've gotta do SOMETHING, it's just that I already tried this on the last girl and got shot down and that really hurt my self-esteem, so maybe I should try something different now. but what?

I can't act until I have a plan in mind. Once I have something decided I can work on manning up enough to do it, which is a whole other really difficult thing. But I can't start that process until I know what to do.

 

[SemperDJ]

There's no plan to follow with this
Having you're feelings hurt from rejection is natural but over time you'll get over that fact and learn not to put too much expectations into things.

Me personally, I would simply comment on her status or picture with a funny remark (Usually on anything related to food) . If she replies back I'll follow through and joke around for a bit which eventually leads to her to taking me out for dinner (Food reference), if she doesn't I simply wouldn't care and move on.

Basing off your situation, there's nothing to lose. If she was interested in you before, she'll follow through and play along.
If she doesn't just go on with your life, knowing that you tried instead of sitting on your ass wondering what if