Should I approach her?

[scott3299]

Should I approach her? HELP!!!

There is this girl that I know of. Unfortunately, she is married. Her "loving" husband teats her like crap and last week he actually hit her. She has only been married for 3 months and by his actions, he obviously doesnt deserve her or love her. According to her best friend, She is entertaining the idea of an annulment but feels obligated to stay with him b/c of their 2 year old son. What should I do? I really like her but I dont know if I should approach her? I too have a son and i know where she is coming from. Any advice at all?

 

[flexion_]

The good:
- you may have sex someday with her

The bad:
- she is married
- she has kids that will be more of a priority than you
- her husband hits her - what will he do to you when he finds out?
- she is telling you all her problems so you are her emotional tampon which means it will take you a few years to have sex with her if at all
- she obviously is mentally screwed up to be having all these troubles 3 months into marriage

 

[scott3299]

Within the past week, I have talked to her on the phone 2 nites for more than 3 hours each nite. She has tried calling my cell a number of times and when I ask her about it, she denies it like she is embarassed. I am quite shy and also have no clue when it comes to women. I think she is just as shy as I am but like I said, I have NO CLUE. Somebody Please help!!!

 

[C00L]

classic example of girl staying with a jerk while using the AFC as an emotional tampoon.

Go find some different honeys.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by scott3299
. Somebody Please help!!!

Okay...
DON'T DO IT!

This whole situation WREAKS of trouble and you're treading on very VERY dangerous territory my friend. Trust me when I say you do NOT want to take this any further...In fact you've taken it too far as it stands. If she's in an abusive relationship then refer her to ways in which she can get out, after that she's going to need some serous healing time. In a few years, if you too haven't lost touch, and you still feel the same way THEN you can pursue a reationship with her.

 

[insidious]

Scott:

How old the f**k are you?

Do you respect yourself? Do you respect your ability to be a man?

Do you know that you will have absolutely no control or influence in this chick's shytty life? Worse yet, even though you are experiencing the joys of being wanted (ie, emotional tampon) that crap will soon disappear once reality comes crashing down on your guys' world. One day she will realize that you cannot do anything for her, that you cannot make her life and its drama disappear just by virtue of your wonderful presence.

The chick has got some serious problems and she needs to get well and strong, for herself and her children. You will do nothing to help the situation, and you can only aggravate it.

Run Forrest run!