"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I live in a city outside of Dallas. I went to an interview 2 weeks ago for a city job and on this thursday they called me and they wanna offer me the job. The offer they made me is for 27.18 per hour but heres the thing, the website says the job pays between 27.18 and 41.13. I asked the human resources lady if they could offer me 29.18 per hour since I have 5 years of experience then she asked if i still wanna continue with the hiring process? Was that her way of telling me no? Do most cities just pay the base rate even if you have experience? Should I accept the 27.18 per hour or am i being low balled?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I live in a city outside of Dallas. I went to an interview 2 weeks ago for a city job and on this thursday they called me and they wanna offer me the job. The offer they made me is for 27.18 per hour but heres the thing, the website says the job pays between 27.18 and 41.13. I asked the human resources lady if they could offer me 29.18 per hour since I have 5 years of experience then she asked if i still wanna continue with the hiring process? Was that her way of telling me no? Do most cities just pay the base rate even if you have experience? Should I accept the 27.18 per hour or am i being low balled?
Apply for the $41
 

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they can do whatever they want probably. they have to involve more ppl usually to get approval for the higher.
sometimes the gov type job is that they are with a starting salary and can be increased over time until the upper number. one of the reasons long time gov employees often stick around.

one way to think about it is to get the job wrapped up if you need it.. and then immediately look for better. the other way to think of it is that you will get what you negotiate.

there is a time and place for both paths.
 

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Take the job, otherwise they'll hire somebody else.

Become invaluable.

Then find another job to use as leverage for a higher pay rate.

HR doesn't give two craps about performance or company profits.

They just enjoy flexing their "take this job or not" muscles.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is this a union eligible job? If so they may have a contract to adhere to with hiring. Contract may up the pay after a specified time period.
 

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I live in a city outside of Dallas. I went to an interview 2 weeks ago for a city job and on this thursday they called me and they wanna offer me the job. The offer they made me is for 27.18 per hour but heres the thing, the website says the job pays between 27.18 and 41.13. I asked the human resources lady if they could offer me 29.18 per hour since I have 5 years of experience then she asked if i still wanna continue with the hiring process? Was that her way of telling me no? Do most cities just pay the base rate even if you have experience? Should I accept the 27.18 per hour or am i being low balled?
When I consider an offer, the first question for me is the salary in the same range as other companies are offering for the same role?

If I want and need the job I’ll accept the lower range.

If I don’t need the job but it is a good career step and I know the job will be an insane amount of work, eg 50+ hours a week, I straight out tell them at the beginning of the interview process I want the high range. No point in giving the company years of my life for a low salary.

Important point, studies show a man’s career peaks at 18 years of working in the same field. The more experience, the more demand for your services, the more you can pick your salary.

At 5 years out, you are not there yet.
 

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Don't discuss salary with HR, you discuss it with your would-be boss and they tell HR what to do. HR is like a retarded 5-year old that literally doesn't know anything. Don't talk to them ever about anything.
Exactly!

Has anyone else ever noticed that most HR Managers and HR Assistants are women too? Adult women in their dating lives often act like retarded 5 years. It seems to me to make perfect sense that women are well suited for HR roles.
 
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The job has a union that I can join after 6 months. The human resources lady told me that the job has a tier system so after 6 months I will make 3 dollars an hour more because of my experience. My main thing though is I dont wanna start at a base rate if they can offer me more. I forgot to mention that the manager called me a week ago and asked me if id be ok to start at 27.18 and i said yes because i didnt wanna lose the job. I figured I could negotiate for more money with human resources. I signed the contract for me to make 27.18 on thursday with human resources and for them to start the background check for me. Is it too late for me to call the manager on monday and ask for more money since I signed the contract already?
 

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Yes it’s too late, you say you have already signed on and accepted the beginning rate and terms.

Honor your word or completely exit the hiring process and stop wasting their time…
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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