"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Should college men be required to take seminar in "toxic masculinity"?

MatureDJ

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 30, 2006
Messages
12,732
Reaction score
5,147
https://www.campusreform.org/?ID=9783
The UNC Men’s Project, which launched in 2013, will host a 10-week discussion group this semester to “increase men’s involvement in gender equity and violence prevention,” and examine how masculinity has "contributed to the perpetration of violence in our society.”
At the end of the 10-week program, students are asked to create an individual “follow on” project by becoming a Peer Educator on masculinity, creating a short documentary film, joining a “gender equity” group on campus, or “developing a plan to increase bystander intervention practices.”
“We believe that we cannot truly change the experiences of women and queer and trans folx until we liberate the beliefs and behaviors of men,” the Women’s Center says, adding that it is committed to helping men “explore the many ways masculinity influences their lives.”
OK, so men need to be re-educated to be less "masculine", but to still be masculine enough to intervene and defend "women, queer and trans folx". :rolleyes:

My opinion: :mad::down:
 
Last edited:

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

RangerMIke

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2014
Messages
4,762
Reaction score
7,975
Location
USA, Louisiana
LOL!!!!!!

Absolutely... just don't buy into any of the stupidity. Do whatever they tell you you have to do and get a grade. But do not let anyone convince you that normal male behavior is any more 'toxic' than normal female behavior.
 

Infern0

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 11, 2015
Messages
1,637
Reaction score
1,462
There is such thing as toxic masculinity but it's not some sjw thing to become submissive, its about not being a massive douche
 

ChristopherColumbus

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 8, 2016
Messages
2,263
Reaction score
1,253
Age
59
Location
korea
Disconcerting to see the way in which the word masculinity is unqualified... as if masculinity itself were the problem.

Ideology [a projection of power] such as this is itself dangerous as it fragments society into conflicting parties. It is itself a form of violence. A meaningful culture, on the other hand, always develops a sense in which we all share a common humanity whilst allowing us our differences.
 
Last edited:
A

AJ84

Guest
https://www.campusreform.org/?ID=9783






OK, so men need to be re-educated to be less "masculine", but to still be masculine enough to intervene and defend "women, queer and trans folx". :rolleyes:

My opinion: :mad::down:
Right. So it's now men's responsibility to make sure no one's feelings get hurt? Wtf?

This implies that only men have problems with gender equality, LGBT etc. That's complete BS. Go to any of those far right Chrsitain blogs and you will see posts by women putting down LGBT and gender equality. So where's the class on toxic femininity?

I think all this does is overinflated the preception of men being oppressors and gives women the impression that all straight men are sexist, homophobic a**holes. I think it just leads to more men actually becoming toxic as a response to being sh*t on like this.

It's like that saying "You're rights stop where my feelings begin".

Most men I've met in my life are genuinely decent people. This is getting out of hand.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Top