Should a single mom go out of her way to show appreciation for a man that accepts her

[MatureDJ]

I was reading this blog posting by someone who is a regular contributor here.

http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/07/23/case-study-wanted-new-daddy/

An interesting point is brought up - that single mommies should - no *must* - go out of their way to show their appreciation for a beta male to come into her life. (I am not counting the pump & dumpers here.)

Your fundamental acknowledgment and showing a constant genuine appreciation for the sacrifice he makes to accommodate your past is essential to any LTR you have in the future. I’m not saying that your kids shouldn’t be your first priority – they absolutely should – but it is imperative that you know and demonstrably appreciate ANY guy who’d make the concession to still entertain you intimately after knowing this.

A lot of women love to gnash and wail about how they’ve become undateable after they’ve acquired single-mom status. Actually, no. There’s a whole modern world that’s teeming with AFC providers, with Cap’n Save-a-ho Martyr Mentalities just itching to get at the reverent ***** they missed out on for most of their 20′s and are more than willing to follow the feminine meme and convince themselves that single mommies are just victims of the Jerks they knocked out their kids with.

This makes sense. It seems that a single mommy is at a much lower level of sexual market value precisely because of her momminess - and that any man that gets into that situation should at least be able to say to himself "yes, she's got a kid, but she's so nice to me, and always sexually available, etc., that I think she's worth it." If he can't at least say that, he starts to think "sh!t, she'd got a kid - and a damn headache all the time? Why the f--- am I hanging around?"

And also I think the sexual availability needs to be paramount. Men will put up with a lot of sh!t so long as the legs are always spread when he wants to (I know I have! :woo I can't see any man but the most beaten down, sexually frustrated chump putting up with kids from another man's seed, and not getting serviced properly.

 

[Down Low]

No. No. No. A single mom's kid should NOT be the number one priority in her life. To do so is to keep the ex being the alpha #1 by proxy. Whenever the ex shows up in the flesh, the new man gets b1tched at and denied pvssy while she's out fvcking the ex. Then, when the ex disappears, it's digging yourself out of an outhouse hole to get back to the disgusting spot you were at before the ex knocked at the door to relieve himself on you three.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I'm dating two single mums at the moment but they appear very different.

One seems to put her kids before me a lot more than the other.
Maybe because the bio-dad lives out of town which means she can't "dump" the kids with him and fvck me as much as I'd like.
The other's ex lives in her town and gets the kids every weekend, leaving mummy free to fvck and have fun.

But I don't get p1ssed off when a woman is unavailable because of her kids.
I would expect a mother to put her kids first and above a new guy on the scene. But there has to be balance.

When I'm with these women, they fvck like threshing machines and appear really grateful to be letting their hair down.
But if there was something happening with her kids, I would expect her to put them before me.

 

[hithard]

I would expect a mother to put her kids first and above a new guy on the scene. But there has to be balance.

When I'm with these women, they fvck like threshing machines and appear really grateful to be letting their hair down.
But if there was something happening with her kids, I would expect her to put them before me.

Agree.
I had a woman once put me before her kid, we had only just met. She was doing her best to bed me while her son was in the next room. At the time I didn't do the single mum thing so refused. I heard later that night she screamed at her kid and blamed him. Disgusting attitude imo I would always put my kids above a woman no matter how good they were.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear MDJ,
Should one make it through the Gates of Paradise one may expect rewards for ones good deeds,but sadly in the World that we poor mortals occupy,it doesn't happen like that.....We have done this Single Mummies thing to bits soo many times....They are an intrinsic part of the journey through life that a DJ meets in his journey through life....Just Enjoy,don't get involved,and accept that her love for her kids is unconditional.