Should a man take a low job just because his wife thinks we would be a "bum" not to?

[MatureDJ]

I'm Sick Of My Unemployed Husband

http://the-coming-depression.blogspot.com/2012/09/true-confession-im-sick-of-my.html

Sometimes I think of getting divorced, but we live in Pennsylvania, which means legally he’ll likely be entitled to half of our assets from the marriage–half of my assets.

I LOVE IT! :crazy:

 

[mrRuckus]

"The idea of a wife being the primary or sole breadwinner is a relatively new one (though a new study shows that over half of American women are household breadwinners), but speaking as that sole earner: I don’t like it."


Yet she'll probably still run right out spouting how great feminism is and how men had it soooo great before feminism when men were forced into breadwinner status. At least women have the choice in a marriage without all of society looking down on them and thinking they're losers.

 

[FairShake]

If you are unemployed with a family THERE IS NO LOW JOB.

The entitlement mentality and classist bigotry of people in the Western world is unbelievable.

So, to answer your question:

Should a man take a low job just because his wife thinks we would be a "bum" not to?

Yes, yes he should.

 

[Warrior74]

If you are unemployed with a family THERE IS NO LOW JOB.

The entitlement mentality and classist bigotry of people in the Western world is unbelievable.

So, to answer your question:

Should a man take a low job just because his wife thinks we would be a "bum" not to?

Yes, yes he should.

False. He should take it because he wants to support his family. Not because she thinks he should. The distinction makes all the difference.

 

[FairShake]

False. He should take it because he wants to support his family. Not because she thinks he should. The distinction makes all the difference.

Nope, I don't think PUA theory applies when it comes to the family. There is no "he should do it for himself because HE wants to" way of thinking. He should do it because it's what needs to be done, his children want it, and his wife wants it. Oh, and he SHOULD want it too.

 

[Warrior74]

Nope, I don't think PUA theory applies when it comes to the family. There is no "he should do it for himself because HE wants to" way of thinking. He should do it because it's what needs to be done, his children want it, and his wife wants it. Oh, and he SHOULD want it too.

Yah...not PUA theory. Man with a family theory.
I work and support my family because that's who I am and what I want to do. If I had a woman who thought I should quit my job and stay at home, I wouldn't because that's not what I want to do.

I know dudes who will not work. They aren't gonna work. Doesn't matter what a woman says. Not gonna happen.

 

[FairShake]

I know dudes who will not work. They aren't gonna work. Doesn't matter what a woman says. Not gonna happen.

Those guys are known as bums. Not only by their women but society-at-large. As they should be. That's not me, and, by all sounds of it, isn't you, a guy who supports his family, either.

For what it's worth I'd definitely stay home with the kids if my wife made more money than me. But that's how I do, I do what's best for the FAMILY not necessarily myself.

 

[Warrior74]

You'd do the best for your family, because YOU WANT TO, and YOU THINK it's the best thing. Not because it's what your wife wants. Please tell me you see this.

 

[FairShake]

I know exactly what you're getting at, I just don't agree.

I'm not married anymore but when I was what my wife wanted was very important and played a HUGE part in my decisions. Sometimes the defining part.

If you only do what you want in a marriage it's not going to work.

 

[Warrior74]

"A huge part". Still not an overriding order or command. I'm not gonna let you let go of your manhood bro.

*edit*
....and that gets to heart of this happy little tale, this guy may be a bum, but he ain't being a kitchen bytch. At the end of the day, she's still begging him to be the leader of the family, and to lift the heavy weight. This betrays the whole "feminist" lie. One of my favorite marketing guru's tells a story about how he got started. He was a stay at home dad and his wife grew tired of climbing toe corporate ladder to bring in a 6 figure income. He got off his ass and made a 7 figure income and loves doing it. Another one of my friends, she whines constantly because she's the bread winner but spouts feminist you go girl bs at every possible turn, and yet she constantly defers to her "less than" husband's leadership instinctively on everything. It's funny how she fails to see whats going on. When she was single and making all the dough she couldn't wait to get a man and get married. She scooped up a guy who had less status than her, and now is ill content because of that very fact. Women. There is no making them happy. You have to do what you think is right and they follow along or not.

 

[FairShake]

Fvck it. Yes, sometimes I did exactly what she wanted. My manhood is secure, I definitely don't have to throw it around all the time.

 

[Warrior74]

Fvck it. Yes, sometimes I did exactly what she wanted. My manhood is secure, I definitely don't have to throw it around all the time.

Hahahaha. I just wanted to hear you say it. I have too, usually to my regret, occasionally to my surprise. A good woman would probably surprise you more than leave you with regret.

 

[FairShake]

My ex-wife is a fairly successful person. Almost certainly better put together than I am. She was definitely better put together when we were married in our early 20s.

I would never do what she said at first. Found out I was wrong a lot of the time. Started listening a little more and found more success in life. Problem was she didn't ever listen to me even the few times I was right. So we divorced.

We're still friends though. She still tells me what to do sometimes although it's done a little suaver now under the guise of giving advice. She was the one who got me to go to nursing school (even gave me the down payment).

A total ***** at times but one of the good ones at other times. Like most of my friends.