"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Should A DJ Pursue A Disinterested Woman?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yes, a DJ should pursue a disinterested woman. You throw the ball in her court (pursue) and see if she throws it back. If she gives you a little, you go for a little more. It's all about "mutual compliance escalation" as the PUAs would put it. Escalate in small increments and if she keeps responding in similar increments, she's good for you.
What is anti-DJ is when you pursue a disinterested woman and continue to pursue (or chase) when she is giving you nothing back.
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Like for example if you just like talking to this chic, she can be a good stress reliever so that you don't dump all over your new girls. You can also use her to cuddle with when you feel bad, and she may provide useful advice. OTOH, if you can't even get advice on a hairstyle or cuddle time with her, then it's probably time that is best spent someplace else. It is always possible such a woman will become attracted over time, but it's so unlikely that I would just consider it a loss and use her for other purposes like helping me meet and pull new chic.
I used to do this a lot and these chicks introduced me to new chicks a lot, helped me in various areas, provided social proof, etc. If a chic isn't useful for any of those things, and you aren't doing her, then she is of no use at all and just wants you to go away.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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yea it happens to me too, very strange behavior...Juan_Man said:Good tip. As you already guessed, I'm in a similar situation. The girl I like seems annoyed whenever I look at her, but appears interested whenever I appear preoccupied or if I'm talking to someone (especially another girl). I'm so confused!