Shoud I just delete all IM software?

[Ronin I]

Just looking to solicit opinions on the pros and cons of Instant Messaging.

The only pro I can think of is that it makes the girls think of you more - either they log on hoping you are online to talk, or they log on and you DO chat for awhile (building rapport?).

I think in some ways it has been counterproductive for me in that it has served to reduce tension between myself and a girl. For instance when a girl will want to talk, rather than having to summon the courage to call me, she will simply log on to AIM and IM me -(or if Im away, she'll leave a note).

On the other hand would this girl have been able to even summon the courage to call at all.

And if she wouldn't have called does that imply low IL to begin with? I guess it all depends.

Point is, I am seriously thinking about deleting all IM from my damn computer. It really is a chick thing - what the hell do I need it for?

 

[Ronin I]

To give a little more detail -

I have 8 women on my buddy list -

(a) 2 ex girlfriends.

(b) 4 girls that I met online but haven't met in person yet.

(c) 2 girls I am currently seeing.

See, I think IM is good for categories (a) and (b) - the online girls you need to build rapport to eventually meet them; the exes I really don't care enough to ever really call but a quick IM here and there keeps them in the loop and open for a possible future lay.

BUT I think IM hurts me when it comes to (c) and this is the category I care the most about by far. The exes are exes for a reason and most online girls are flaky at best.

I want to maximize my production out of category (c) and I think that means IM has to go.

 

[Eternal]

You could always just delete thier screen names from your list.

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by crazykid
You could always just delete thier screen names from your list.

Good point. To be honest I've done that once or twice in the past and then I get weak and unblock them. Sometimes I'm a really f*ckin' pv$$y.

 

[-Zero_h0uR-]

If it hinders you, then get rid of it.

I am in college, and sometimes it's a Godsend. Right now I get NO FREAKING SIGNAL on my cell cause i'm in a dead spot, so having IM is great. NOT for pickup games. For contacting friends. It's a quick easy way to set up get togethers with my buddies.

I refuse to use it for "macking." I take a walk if I have to to call girls. So... Umm. After all this useless information, I guess it's up to you . hah.


-- Zero-

 

[One on One]

When you're pursuing a girl, I've found IM is a good tool, but only if used sparingly. I have 2 SNs and I tell the girl only one of them. This way I can still go online, but I don't go on my main name unless I want her to see me online. If you're online all the time, it will make a terrible impression and she'll just want to contact you online. If you are rarely online, she'll be excited to see you log on. The girl I'm currently working on asked me 2 days after I had given her my screenname if I hadn't been online in those 2 days. Of course I had, but I used another name and gave her the impression I'm a busy guy and don't have time to go online. It also told me she was eager to talk to me. We have only chatted once online. All our other conversations have been phone calls, which I think is crucial. Phone calls are more intimate and will do a lot to keep you out of the friends zone. She even called me one time when I know she saw I was online, which told me she wants the phone to be our communication tool.

 

[Dee-Zy]

I keep it to talk to friends that are in the states or too far to call or I use it to do music on the net.

aside from that - I don't grab AIM or WM from chicks, that's just dumb. Unless you are in high school N you don't have the balls to talk to them live.

 

[dontmindme]

nah. what you do is add ONLY GOOD friends to your buddy list.. and block out anyone not on your buddy list.