"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Shotgun Approach on tinder

Bingo-Player

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i feel im not really getting the most out of tinder

ive tried all different types of text game on there but everything seems to lead to a dead end or a next

tinder girls arent looking for a "chat" or to "meet"

they either want sex or attention and ive decided i want the answer faster

over the next couple of days im going to use the shotgun approach of

" hey ive got a room at XYZ come over and we'll get to know each other"

due to the illogical nature of women im not expecting anything from it , but its better than wasting a day's worth of idle conversation to get to the same point

what you guys think ?

got any other ideas to cut through the nonsense
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dustmuffin

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I would ask them out straight away. The direct approach works for me. No idle chit chat.
 
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