Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Short FR: Dancing, 2nd encounter with desparate girl.

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I get surprised from behind by a girl I met about a month ago. She's all touchy feely with me, feeling up my arm and shoulder from the right as I'm sitting down. She's happy to see a familiar face, says she doesn't get out much, wishes she'd started going out earlier, feels she's wasted a few years of not going out. She's not bad looking, kinda sexual or "sensual" looking like she wants to fvck. Looks wifey. Probably 4-5 years younger than me.

When a woman's this forward, alarm bells start going off to where I start wondering if she does this to EVERY guy.

Well, I danced with older women mostly, so she talks/sits by older men. I don't understand.

We're both there a good 5 hours. It's a Big dancing event, not your typical club dance. There are pros there.

So she follows up my every word with how much she loves where I live, what I'm doing, what I like, and on and on. She's, well, AFC.

She asks for my email. I say I have a better idea and whip out my phone and have her punch in her # AND name. Then I direct her to call herself.

I say that we should go out on a date where I live, as she mentions never dating. I need a steady dancing partner, I say.

I will not call her though. This has just been my method. Far too many girls have flaked on me when I call so, I never call anymore. She has to call me if she wants to have fun.

I've got too many other girls that I can be with any given day if need be.

She is very attractive though. The more I dance though, the more my stock will rise and hers stays where it is.

No need to call her, but I could fvck her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Poonani i see you been writing a lot of FR's latley
you meet all your girls on the field or no?
sounds like you live by the theme that women are adudant cause you ain't tripping about calling her, but then whats the point of # close?
 

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Solomon said:
Poonani i see you been writing a lot of FR's latley
you meet all your girls on the field or no?
sounds like you live by the theme that women are adudant cause you ain't tripping about calling her, but then whats the point of # close?
Less in the field, usually at a social gathering or dance where everyone's invited. I've just started dancing in numerous forms: salsa, swing, night club 2-step, waltz, tango - I like tango the most, it's harder, but I like it because it looks cool.

Regarding # close, I know that I'll probably see her out dancing again, maybe in a month, maybe in a week, or a couple of months. She'll probably, maybe not, ask me why I never called her about "that" date. I'll say something like, "Do you really wanta go?" I may make her call me when she wants to go. I can tell her exactly where we can go and the style of dance we can do, because I go to these things with or without her anyway.
 
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