"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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short calls vs. long calls

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i tried something different and chatted on the phone for too long (about 45 minutes maybe). usually, i'd keep calls short and ask for the meet up. anyways, this chick told me she'd call back the next day. she didn't call :p but i think i'll go back to keeping calls short/sweet/to the point rather than trying to gain comfort over the phone. i've seen different views on this. what works best for you guys?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Short and sweet definately. Much better to say the rest in person.
 
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I've gone with the comfort over the phone bit when I was learning. Short and sweet is good when you're chasing. But there's nothing wrong with a conversation once you start dating, if you take that route.

Just keep it fluff talk. You COULD be with her instead of talking, but sometimes you can't. The hard to get aspect works for when you're trying to attract them. But once you've got them, dude, you've got them.

To paraphrase a quote from A Bronx Tale: "When you two are under under the sheets at night, that's all that matters."

The point is don't always worry about what is and what isn't a "DJ" way. If you play your cards right, you'll have HB on the other end of the phone. No naysayer can take away your results. Just don't be her tampon, that's what her girls friends are for.
 
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