"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Short and young looking

DJinTraining06

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Berlex said:
How do you dress? Once I stopped dressing like a college kid and more like an adult people started taking me seriously. I wear ties and slacks to work, people mistaken me for a doctor (I work at a clinic). I'm 23, 5'5'', and Asian so I know what it feels like to be "short and young looking."
My job has a uniform lol.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being_the_Don

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DJinTraining06 said:
I posted a week or two about this and im even more confused now than before. No matter what i do, how i act, people that i start to get cool with always end up treating me like a kid and act all condescendingly to me like high school nerds get talked to by the cool kids. Im short - 5'6'', i look like im 18, im turning 26 in a month. I feel like people never give me a chance cuz of how i look. Im never one of the guys. These taller older looking guys my age fit in without even saying as word. Some of them are shy as anything and have no social skills and they r just one of the guys. Its like i have to fit the mold of little kid borther that people visualize when they see me. Any other short guys have this problem? If i act like myself, people think im posing as somebody im not. Meanwhile i have the same interest and thught processes as most guys I know. I notice this with other types of people too.

For example this guy at my job has a bit of a speech impediment. Whenever he talks about a hot girl walkin by, people dont seem to wanna listen to him or agree. When the other guys do, everyone agrees and is all into it.

Its like people have their steryotypes in their mind and theres really nothing u can do about it.

Is there anyway for a short guy like me who looks like a little runt 18 yr old kid, can earn peoples respect? Im just fed up. Im tired of analzying my behavior, i should have to, nobody else does. The amazing thing is my girlfriend is very good looking and she thinks im the greatest thing since sliced bread. Why cant I earn anybody elses respect anymore?
I can think of two short guys who got noticed: Napolean Bonaparte and Prince. They stand out because they didn't let their height hold them back.
 
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