Dj’s
i just came out of a bar, met this stunning beauty. I approached her and we begin small talk. Once we begin small talk, she comes closer, she then points her feet outwards like she wants to exit, it kept happening back & forth for a little while. We still vibing and i see a tattoo on her written with my language, i ask her if she knows my language, she replies just a few words. She then says she has to go back to her friends, she says they’re on an exchange too (they’re on a university exchange, i am a uni student) i was like let’s go and meet your friends.
We go and i start talking to her friends, she leaves to get something to eat. I am connecting with her friends, i keep it playful. She then comes back after a while and tells me to get up from the chair as it is her chair, i reply no go get a new chair. “For some reason i got irritated like wtf why would you say that, i would say this is an overreaction from me but nevertheless felt disrespectful. Mindset change perhaps?” After that i got up and here is where i fumbled -> i started playing with my phone for a bit and everybody just became silent. One of the girls was really engaged with me and i told her what’s your instagram literally infront of the girl who i approached like 5 mins ago she writes it down and doesn’t follow me (discovered that later,but from here downhill) i started saying that i have to go after that, and said bye to everybody, and then said bye to the girl i approached she started eying me up and down. I then left.
This by far has been the most irrational & illogical move i have ever done with women. Clearly the woman i approached was interested because she let the conversation go on + let me speak to her friends. I however ****ed myself up after that chair thing.
My question DJ’s is how do you handle such fumbles? How do you prevent them from happening?
Hey dude.
You are too much in your head. Your approach is robotic is not free-spirit.
You are thinking your each move and what to do so you can hold a strong frame. I understand that you are in the learning phase and this is how I was 10 years ago. I don't judge you.
But you have to understand that women can sense a guy from miles away who is pretending or using games to show a strong frame.
I never actually believed that until I had a few chicks tell me this even after I banged them.
Regarding your post.
Going with her to meet her friends, is not a good idea. Grab a phone or Instagram and leave. You could go yes I had situations that it worked out. But usually, it's a waste of time.
Her friends can c0ck block you, and waste your time especially if she is an attraction wh0re. Which you don't know yet as you just met her.
I never go with her friends only if she is my gf to the point that i banged her enough times, and she told me she wants exclusivity then maybe i will go and meet her friends.
Her: Get up from the chair as it is my chair
You: There is a chair next to you (Smile) (indifferent not butthurt as we discussed previously)
Silence in games is not bad. If you have an awkward silence keep it for a few moments.
I had a chick sh1test me once like this in the car, she was not talking at all. I stopped talking for 40 minutes and eventually, she cracked and started blowing her mouth like a frog.
Watch some comedy shows, and keep some jokes that you can crack with ch1icks i used that to break awkward silences not always but at the right time.
