"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Shooting Women's Nonsense Down With Snark

Stugots26

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Does anyone else just relish the ohhhh-I-don't-think-so opportunities to put a women in their place with a chuckle? Like when they try to test your boundaries or wiggle out of something or change their tune and they get smarmy about it, I get this wonderful kind of sick pleasure out of making sure they know they're not moving me off center and being condescending or patronizing about it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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VladPatton

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I just look at them hard for about 4 seconds, blink once, then proceed to change the subject.
 

GS750

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A world class wise-ass smirk usually does the trick
 
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