She's testing if I chase her - what to do

[joker79]

Guys, after a really successful first date with a girl I attracted (with lot of confidence and strong body language I should say), I've the feeling that she now testing me in order to understand if I chase her acting unavailable and teasing (faking she has other dates). I'm not sure if she has a bf or not but she showed me really IL interest. What sould I do? acting cool and relaxed and wait for her move I think, she won't lose attraction if I'm cool. What do you think?

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Do the same thing you'd do for any other chick. Invite her out for a date. If she rejects, try once more. If she rejects a 2nd time, then NEXT.

No point in trying to figure out the "games" of some girl you've been on 1 date with.

You're trying to convince yourself to chase her because you thought it was a "really successful" date. But you don't really know that.

 

[Renegade357]

What do you think?

Don't think about her games man just bottom line her actions. Wait a week and ask her out again but make sure you have an original date idea planned. Don't just take her out for drinks or dinner and a movie or something dumb. Make sure it's fun and original.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Don't think about her games man just bottom line her actions. Wait a week and ask her out again but make sure you have an original date idea planned. Don't just take her out for drinks or dinner and a movie or something dumb. Make sure it's fun and original.

Drinks is fun.

Guys get themselves tripped up when trying to be "original".

I plan original dates for girlfriends. For new girls, drinks and conversation get me everything I need.

We shouldn't over-plan dates for girls who haven't yet earned it.

 

[Renegade357]

Guys get themselves tripped up when trying to be "original".

If you mix things up with some kind of activity it takes the pressure off the date. It's easier to keep things light and fun that way to where you'll both be relaxed and positive. It doesn't have to be anything crazy but a little different/fun. There can also be drinking involved which is always good if she actually drinks. I think it's important to stand out from the other 5 guys that are after her without looking too try hard.

I dunno, I've had pretty good success doing it that way. Not to brag but I've got my share of battle scars so I may be a little more advanced than some of the other guys on here. I like to test a girl out early to see how flexible she is. I also know enough of their tricks to where I weed them out early now. That's really my goal in the first 3 dates is to give them their walking papers if they're not up to snuff.

 

[joker79]

I'm gonna play it light and cool, I've f**** up too many times my good results at the first stage with an anxious approach. We kind of agreed for the weekend, let's see if she flakes. Honestly I think she expect me to chase her a bit or to initiate contact, I'll try to avoid any beta behaviour