Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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She's playin hard to get, i dont care...

grayclif

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I had been NC for 4 weeks cause she flaked on me. I get a missed call a week ago but I don't return. She calls again yesterday, I answer, and before we get disconnected I tell her ill call her back. I planned on never calling her back but I got drunk and I call her late last night (11pm) and no answer, she knows its me.

So I call her again tonight at 11pm and we get in an argument. Well not really an argument but she she can see i'm not gonna be her ***** anymore. She doesn't like it. The convo ends and she says she's not feeling so good so I say whatever bye.

I send her a text after:

me: I hope your smiling, if not just think of me.
hbRed: no cause i'm in pain and you don't care - just selfish and mean
me: your right, i don't care
hbRed: Thanks

I havnt responded and I have pretty much left everything in her court, I know. If she is gone then so be it. But I have been an AFC to this chick for 2 years. Damn, I've even eaten her puzzy. All I know is now I won't be her *****. After being on this site for a few weeks she has noticed that i'm not the same old grayclif.

Have any ideas on where my next move should be. She is def not GF material but would like to make her a nice FB. Thanks....
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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So you've eaten her out, known her for 2 years, but you're still not fb's? If it was going to crystallize into anything already it would have. I say leave it in her court, and let her come crawling back.
 

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It's all right........ if u have a good time!
The problem is that now that you are not 'her *****', she no longer has an incentive to be with you/do anything with you. Sounds like you are in a kind of purgatory between 'too strong to be my *****' and 'too weak to be my man'.

'hbRed: no cause i'm in pain and you don't care - just selfish and mean' - clearly you haven't actually bothered her this much, she's just trying to draw you back in to where you were before.

You should surround yourself with other women and make sure she is aware of that (don't tell her though) and if possible, befriend the guys that are going after her/she is going after. The ones that she actually shows interest in.

Now that the balls in her court she is probably going to withdraw from you completely. Make yourself a permanent presence in her life, without making it seem that that is your intention or that you're forcing it.
 

grayclif

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dontknowbouthat - thats the plan yo! We have been at this back and forth for years. Yeah, if you eating the poo why cant you just stick it in. funny she asked the same thing. AFC to the max...

Proselytiser - I'm surrounded. We'll see what happens. She gets emails from me twice weekly (business) so she will know i'm around (electronically at least).
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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grayclif

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So Suave crew c'mon help ya boy out. Yeah I should have taken that **** years ago but I was AFC, I'm sure you understand that. HBRed is a 9 with bad teeth (she hides it well).
 

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Yesterday I send out an email at 12:55pm. At 1:06pm she responds and buys 2 of whatever it is I'm selling. This is all very interesting...
 
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