She's interested right?

[DJinTraining06]

Wen't on a first date last night with another match.com girl. We had dinner. While we were waiting for the table we had a glass of wine at the bar. During dinner we had 2 more glasses of wine, talked and laughed alot. After dinner she says i feel bad u paid, lemme at least buy u a drink at the bar? so we go back to our seats at the bar and get martinis. She gets a 2nd martini. We must have been at the bar a good 2 hrs. Safe to say this girls pretty interested right? Or does she just love alcohol. She did not seem the slightest bit fazed by 3 glasses of wine and 2 martinis so i think she def drinks often.

Or did she just feel guilty bout me paying for dinner and our wine? I spent a ton of money 6 glasses of wine and dinner. I imd her this morning, talkin to her now actually. She's been very friendly same as normal, seems happy to talk to me. But when i said "i had a good time last night, would love to do it agains sometime" She didnt say anythng and chnaged the subject. Is that a hint?

 

[GHardy]

It sounded promising at first, but the fact that she didn't respond positively to your IM is not a good sign.

I would give it one more try and one only, on the off-chance that she wasn't paying attention.

Call or e-mail her directly asking her out again for a specific day and time. If she blows you off or ignores it, you're done. Move on.

 

[skip2mylou781]

djIntraining - why in the ****ING hell are u goign out on a expensive dinner for a 1st date????????????????????????? if there was ever a rule to follow on sosuave (and i dont like sosuave rules), that would be to NOT PAY FOR A WOMAN U DO NOT KNOW. what did she do to earn u paying so much for dinner for her?? oh thats right, u made her seem like the big prize and u payed for her as a reward to agreeing to go on a date with u in the first place.

read my threads about what kind of dates to go on if you wanna have success

 

[DJinTraining06]

djIntraining - why in the ****ING hell are u goign out on a expensive dinner for a 1st date????????????????????????? if there was ever a rule to follow on sosuave (and i dont like sosuave rules), that would be to NOT PAY FOR A WOMAN U DO NOT KNOW. what did she do to earn u paying so much for dinner for her?? oh thats right, u made her seem like the big prize and u payed for her as a reward to agreeing to go on a date with u in the first place.

read my threads about what kind of dates to go on if you wanna have success

we were gonna do drinks there, but we were both hungry.

 

[DJinTraining06]

It sounded promising at first, but the fact that she didn't respond positively to your IM is not a good sign.

I would give it one more try and one only, on the off-chance that she wasn't paying attention.

Call or e-mail her directly asking her out again for a specific day and time. If she blows you off or ignores it, you're done. Move on.

Well shes been iming me all day at work. We both are on at work all day long. She's been very friendly. I dunno maybe the way i phrased it wasnt in the form of a question to her? I dunno in my opinion it still deserved a response. When should i ask her by phone. Tonite or should i waittill like wednesday. The date was last night.

 

[skip2mylou781]

why is all this $$ being spent on a first date please tell me??

ive falled into this trap b4 many times, and the end result was always either a)no second date or b) no sex.

However, the times that me and a girl would just hang out and not make it a "date", more times then not we ended up fcuking

you can only learn from experience. I know i did.

 

[Jack McCrack]

Hey if the guy's got money, let him spend it however she wants.

The chick even repaid him a bit by buying drinks.

If all parties had a good time, there's nothing wrong.

When you have money, it becomes the least of your worries.

 

[Maximus Rex]

As far as interest, read this and see if any of the following applies to you. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=111961

Why did you go for so much money? Why didn't you just her for drinks? Dude for now on, spend NO MORE THAN $40 ON A DATE!!! I'm just curious, what did you hope to achieve by dropping so much dough? Did you even attempt to close?

 

[GHardy]

Wait one more day and then call her at home, not at work, and not over IM, and ask her out for the weekend.

She may be talking to you over IM because she likes you, or it may be because she is bored or just trying to be nice. The only way to find out is to ask her out again directly so that you know for sure.

Don't be worried about rejection. If she's not into you, you want to know now before you waste more time on her.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Wait one more day and then call her at home, not at work, and not over IM, and ask her out for the weekend.

She may be talking to you over IM because she likes you, or it may be because she is bored or just trying to be nice. The only way to find out is to ask her out again directly so that you know for sure.

Don't be worried about rejection. If she's not into you, you want to know now before you waste more time on her.

I asked her online, rather not waste time. She said she had a good time but to be honest she didnt feel the chemistry 100%. So i was like oh ok cool, glad ur honest. And she goes well we dont have to have to get married tomorow. Cant we just see wat happens. So i go ok i was just tryin to figure out if u were interestd, that marriage comment was not necessary. She pissed me off, i hardly even asked her anything. what a b*thc.

 

[GHardy]

Yeah, it's not worth it. She's trying to hedge her bets. Your answer lies here:

She said she had a good time but to be honest she didnt feel the chemistry 100%.

All that "let's just see what happens," is code for "keep buying me more dinners." In my experience, whether you're just trying to get laid, or whether you are looking for a girlfriend, either it will happen right away, or it's not going to happen.

Now, you should totally ignore her for a few days and see what she does. No communication whatsoever. The way she reacts to that will tell you a lot.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Yeah, it's not worth it. She's trying to hedge her bets. Your answer lies here:



All that "let's just see what happens," is code for "keep buying me more dinners." In my experience, whether you're just trying to get laid, or whether you are looking for a girlfriend, either it will happen right away, or it's not going to happen.

Now, you should totally ignore her for a few days and see what she does. No communication whatsoever. The way she reacts to that will tell you a lot.

Exactly, thats why i deicded to not wait till wedneday to ask her. If a girls interested she lets u know somehow, and this one wasn't at all. I needed to ask to prove it to myself, and i was right. She had the nerve to say i was suffocatin her cuz i said "i had a good time, would love to do it again sometime"

Thats like afreakin formality and so general, not like i asked her on a specific date and tried to plan it. What a b*tch.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Yeah, it's not worth it. She's trying to hedge her bets. Your answer lies here:



All that "let's just see what happens," is code for "keep buying me more dinners." In my experience, whether you're just trying to get laid, or whether you are looking for a girlfriend, either it will happen right away, or it's not going to happen.

Now, you should totally ignore her for a few days and see what she does. No communication whatsoever. The way she reacts to that will tell you a lot.

she told me she wasn't feelin me 100% and asked if i was nervous.
Now i usually am nervous on dates but i wasnt on this one cuz i been talkin to her for weeks online. And i just was really calm for some reason, maybe cuz i didnt care goin into it. I really dont know why she felt that. I asked her to elaborate and she said lack of eye contact and a nervous laugh at times. The funny thing is i kept lookin in her eyes and shed look away every time. So i ended up not lookin as much. We werent even facing each other at the far we were side to side. I was completly shocked when she told me this cuz i was so calm, and we talked non stop the whole time and laughed our asses off. Shes says i didnt seem comfy with her, and it made her a lil uncomfortable. I gotta say she really made me feel like sh*t when she told me this, cuz that was as natural as i get. I had 4 drinks in me too, i had no nervous energy in my body after 4 drinks. I cant beleive my natural self, is still afc. I was totally just bein me, i got really tipsy cuz 2 of the drinks were martinis. I am cool as a cucumber with alcohol in me, i dont get it.

 

[Cod3r]

She had the nerve to say i was suffocatin her cuz i said "i had a good time, would love to do it again sometime"

Calibration, ever heard of it ??

Firstly are you looking for marriage or LTR ?? If not, why are you sending signals as such ?? Buying her dinner and expensive dinner at that, those are signals of a PROVIDER not a potential fvcking partner.... If she's anywhere under 27, you screwed yourself from the start, also seriously wats up with that line...

"I had a good time, would love to do it again sometime" ??

Come on man, me and you both know you're not going to stalk her, but theres not reason to say something like that. You're in a game, PLAY IT bro !!! Once the night is over, lean in for a kiss and then ask her if she has some gum first, joke around, mess with her ass, come on bro !

Girls don't want guys to 'want to do it again sometime' they want a guy who has better thnings to do then spend it with her. She dosen't like herself and with you liking her, she's wondering how pitiful you must be to like someone like her sooo much. Most girls self-esteem are pfffffffffffffft splaaat ! Treat them like they are an afterthought and see how far you get....

Also, don't be pissed off at her... YOU FVCKED UP.... YOU.


She didn't do anything she isn't programmed to do, its natural... she don't know any better

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Oh and all the thing she said like...

1. Lack of EC
2. Nervous laugh
3. Not feelin comfy with her
4. ect...

Those are absolute BS that you should not take into consideration, you weren't a challenge and the connection just wasn't there. You're not her type plain and simple and instead of saying that outright she's being nice with trying to give you peculiars. Don't lose sleep over this one, go back to match.com or myspace. com or whatever online community you find these b!tches and line up another date for yourseelf lol


-Cod3r

 

[DJinTraining06]

Calibration, ever heard of it ??

Firstly are you looking for marriage or LTR ?? If not, why are you sending signals as such ?? Buying her dinner and expensive dinner at that, those are signals of a PROVIDER not a potential fvcking partner.... If she's anywhere under 27, you screwed yourself from the start, also seriously wats up with that line...

"I had a good time, would love to do it again sometime" ??

Come on man, me and you both know you're not going to stalk her, but theres not reason to say something like that. You're in a game, PLAY IT bro !!! Once the night is over, lean in for a kiss and then ask her if she has some gum first, joke around, mess with her ass, come on bro !

Girls don't want guys to 'want to do it again sometime' they want a guy who has better thnings to do then spend it with her. She dosen't like herself and with you liking her, she's wondering how pitiful you must be to like someone like her sooo much. Most girls self-esteem are pfffffffffffffft splaaat ! Treat them like they are an afterthought and see how far you get....

Also, don't be pissed off at her... YOU FVCKED UP.... YOU.


She didn't do anything she isn't programmed to do, its natural... she don't know any better

--
Oh and all the thing she said like...

1. Lack of EC
2. Nervous laugh
3. Not feelin comfy with her
4. ect...

Those are absolute BS that you should not take into consideration, you weren't a challenge and the connection just wasn't there. You're not her type plain and simple and instead of saying that outright she's being nice with trying to give you peculiars. Don't lose sleep over this one, go back to match.com or myspace. com or whatever online community you find these b!tches and line up another date for yourseelf lol


-Cod3r

Well ive done that with every girl ive ended up dating and they liked it. Sometimes they said that to me. its just the type of girl i think and whether their interested or not. I just feel that the girl always tellsu somethin after a date if their interested. They always say oh i had a good time or at least somethin along those lines. I even talked to a female friend about this once and she said that its a girl rule that u give an obligatory thank u after a date if ur interested. I dunno man there are some straightforward girls out there, i just never seem to like them. Its funny it seems the only ones who are straighforward r the ugly ones who act more like guys. U know the type, the ones that have few female firends and get along better wit the guys. Which is awesome, but their usually ugly and dont have the female traits men usually r attratced to. Sucks. I got another match option, girls emailed me and said i have gorgeous eyes so im gonna ask her out. I got that other girl too who i went out with a few times. She got kinda cold on the 3rd date so i asked wat was the matter, and she said she needed to take things extra extra extra slow cuz she had a very bad experience. And she was afraid to lead me on. I dunno if i beleive that. We had tongues down eachothers throats on my couch on the 2nd date, not sure wat went wrong. I didnt even call her for like 3 days after that.