"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She's gotten boring, and stopped chasing,as if she's won me over. How do fix this?

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gimmeyofonenumba

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She will still initate contact, but for the most part she has gotten boring, rather than trying to be more exciting and creative. Before she would always txt or call me, telling me things like she was trying to impress me. She used to compliment, and try to win me over, by describing herself as the type of person i told her i was looking for. We've had sex, been on plenty of dates. How do i fix this and get her back into the phase of having to win me over?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Return to the way you were with her, when she was chasing you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Also interested in what one should do. Although I predict the answer may be pumpndump...I normally just start interacting with more women and if I get that bored with girlfriend, date someone else.
 
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You don't have to blow this one out. If you like her, just make yourself a scarce commodity for a bit.
 
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