"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She's Gorgeous But Irritating: Would You Close Her?

freshstartin2008

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What have you done with girls who are hot but personally irritating?

You know, even as I write this, I'm thinking, just go ahead with it, just close her out, and learn from it and enjoy the experience...but she can be VERY irritating which leads me to hesitate.

Pros:
1. beautiful face
2. amazing body
3. great fashion sense
4. REALLY into me, almost too much
5. some personality traits which are cool: demure, quiet


Cons:
1. a little bit immature
2. not confident she can keep me

The thing which irritates me is that she cannot really carry on a conversation without breaking out into a fit of giggles, silly negs and taunting based on her nervousness and so forth. She just can't seem to COMPOSE herself, and this leads me to unconsciously roll my eyes, and basically end conversations with her as soon as possible.

When I try to freeze her out, or just ignore her, she keeps returning, and returning, and returning, and simply won't go away.

How can I get this girl to just chill out and be with me, without losing it all the time?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Scars

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Some girls are just simply helpless. Girls like this are a lay nice, but by no means LTR material. I put personality pretty high on my standards, I believe a girl needs to stimulate my mind as well as my body. I'm so much better at seducing smart girls than I am dumb ones for some reason. Although my buddy is the exact oppossite. I just hate superficial conversation, it feels like a waste of time, and I'm sure you are the same way. Honestly, you need to decide which is more important. Her looks or her intelligence (or lack of).
 

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Let me clarify: these girls are both quite intelligent, academically and socially. But around me, at least when we are in a group, or in public, they can't seem to compose themselves. In one on one situations, they are a bit better.

It's not lack of intelligence, it's their high level of anxiety and jittery nerves which leads them to act out in an embarrassing way.
 

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In that case just give them time. I'm sure they're just nervous. They'll get more comfortable with you as time progresses, don't write them off just yet.
 

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Thanks for the feedback, bro. Yeah, it's getting a bit better, but not at the pace I'd like. I've known them for a few weeks, and it's like I'm twiddling my thumbs while I wait for them to chill out...

Scars said:
In that case just give them time. I'm sure they're just nervous. They'll get more comfortable with you as time progresses, don't write them off just yet.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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