"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She's Gorgeous But Irritating: Would You Close Her?

freshstartin2008

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What have you done with girls who are hot but personally irritating?

You know, even as I write this, I'm thinking, just go ahead with it, just close her out, and learn from it and enjoy the experience...but she can be VERY irritating which leads me to hesitate.

Pros:
1. beautiful face
2. amazing body
3. great fashion sense
4. REALLY into me, almost too much
5. some personality traits which are cool: demure, quiet


Cons:
1. a little bit immature
2. not confident she can keep me

The thing which irritates me is that she cannot really carry on a conversation without breaking out into a fit of giggles, silly negs and taunting based on her nervousness and so forth. She just can't seem to COMPOSE herself, and this leads me to unconsciously roll my eyes, and basically end conversations with her as soon as possible.

When I try to freeze her out, or just ignore her, she keeps returning, and returning, and returning, and simply won't go away.

How can I get this girl to just chill out and be with me, without losing it all the time?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Scars

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Some girls are just simply helpless. Girls like this are a lay nice, but by no means LTR material. I put personality pretty high on my standards, I believe a girl needs to stimulate my mind as well as my body. I'm so much better at seducing smart girls than I am dumb ones for some reason. Although my buddy is the exact oppossite. I just hate superficial conversation, it feels like a waste of time, and I'm sure you are the same way. Honestly, you need to decide which is more important. Her looks or her intelligence (or lack of).
 

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Let me clarify: these girls are both quite intelligent, academically and socially. But around me, at least when we are in a group, or in public, they can't seem to compose themselves. In one on one situations, they are a bit better.

It's not lack of intelligence, it's their high level of anxiety and jittery nerves which leads them to act out in an embarrassing way.
 

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In that case just give them time. I'm sure they're just nervous. They'll get more comfortable with you as time progresses, don't write them off just yet.
 

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Thanks for the feedback, bro. Yeah, it's getting a bit better, but not at the pace I'd like. I've known them for a few weeks, and it's like I'm twiddling my thumbs while I wait for them to chill out...

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In that case just give them time. I'm sure they're just nervous. They'll get more comfortable with you as time progresses, don't write them off just yet.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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