"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Shes giving me silent treatment, what should I do?

jmp101

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My age: 30
Get age: 35
LTR for: 9 months

We go back and forth saying good morning to each other (That means, if I initiate a text on Mon, she will initiate on Tues). She likes to text, and I don't. But she at least wants to text good morning and good night, so i'm cool with that. We've been doing the back and forth initiating for 2 months now.

I initiated the good morning text on Sun. When Mon came around, she didn't text. I assumed she was busy (She works alot). Then Tues came around, no text from her. I didn't text because it was "her turn".

On Weds, I get this message:
Her: "Hey, are you still alive?"
Me: "Good morning. I've been busy with work stuff. How are you?"

I get no response. So I send another message.

Me: "You get my txt from this morning?"

Still no response! So I Thurs, I sent her a "Good morning" and still nothing!

Shes probably pissed because she thinks I should have texted her on Mon or Tues. But my thing is, since we've been going back and forth, why didn't she text? Since shes giving the silent treatment, I haven't had a chance to explain that.

What should I do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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_sideways_

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Lay off her bro....if she's cute...she has 20 dudes talking to her.

don't get worked up over ur first number close...or any

have some self respect, do it for male kind
 

jimmy18

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Would Clint Eastwood exchange "good morning" texts with a love interest? :up:
 

Leprechaun2013

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30? I've never heard of anything as stupid as this in my life.

Don't you people have anything more to say to each other than Good Morning? :crackup:

Instead of worrying about who initiates who's text go over and bang her. That's what you need to be doing or you'll end up using your hand when she keeps permanent silence when she dumps you.

Worrying about who initiates who's text...Good Lord :crackup:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No.Danny

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Man that's silly. .. and I'm 17 ...
 

Desdinova

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jmp101 said:
What should I do?
Send her NOTHING for one week. Do not initiate texts, and don't respond to anything she sends (unless she wants to see you). If she's not wanting you by the end of the week, then you're officially single and are going out to meet new women.
 

Black Widow Void

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Aside from a couple of folks offering sound advice. There were several responses to this newbie, which offered nothing - except a display of desperate need for empowerment (attempts at escalating their 'worth' at the means of putting a newbie down). Their behavior in itself is not unlike the woman you described (self-consumed)

Do not text her. If she does eventually respond, do not immediately text back.

Sounds like you are the initiator. Did you notice what happened when you didn't initiate? She texted you! But when you (I assume immediately) responded back, she got her validation.

She also received extra validation because you continued to text - even though she had not.

Her actions/reactions are (or were) actually telling you how to play this. It may be a little late in the game for this one, but the sliver lining is that she provided you with practice.
 

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Her interest is definitely declining. Perhaps another dude/dudes is in the picture. Text nothing and see where she stands. You cannot get desperate at this time. Be patient, calm, and cool, and her actions will tell you where her interest lies. If it keeps declining cut her loose and look for a chick that is into you. Good luck.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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