"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She's getting distant, post oral and post sex

MyTeamSupreme

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Long story short. This broad who I met in school just got out of a relationship with her boyfriend of 5 years in December. I met her in Jan, she sucked me in Feb, we had sex for the first time in May. We sexed around for about a month until she started getting distant and I thought to myself, whatever, I'm gonna fall back and play the position that she wants me to play.

1 week after that she starts kissing and hugging me like she used to before she started acting funny. Fast forward 2 weeks to now shes getting even more distant with the claim that shes getting to close and she wants to distance herself due to the fact that she doesnt want us to either end up hating each other or loving each other and spending all of our time together. What I thought was "hey, the chick musta found someone else" i never asked her about it. I asked her if i could still pound her vag (not exactly like that) and she responded by saying "i feel like a slut when i dont have sex with a guy that isnt my boyfriend".

Keep in mind this chick likes to get jackhammered, with a phallus or some fingers. She called me "too aggressive" today when i playfully punched her in the arm. As we walked she got to the parking lot and and said "later dude", i responded playfully "no hug, no kiss?" she said no and i turned away from her and walked right as she glanced at me

i really want to next this chick in the grimiest of ways by forgetting she exists and having a tunnel vision if shes ever walking towards me...but, im not sure if thats the smartest thing to do...should i be "friends" with her (her suggestion) and wait for the best?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ThunderMaverick

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Wow what a salty c*nt. Maybe you're acting too much like a jerk. Maybe not. Whatever the case, give her exactly what she wants - your departure and don't look back. If she does come back make her absolutely play by your rules. F*ck this push and pull sh*t.
 

Zarky

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Duno but I like the OP's general attitude and style toward women. Truly this is the attitude that most women expect and deem "normal" from men. Anything nicer is considered "too nice." If he's banging several women he should have some good success in his future.
 

Tazman

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Why do guys always mess up what's working? You were doing the right thing in the beginning and she came back. Why revert to feeding into her negative vibes? When she acts distant, you always step back, always. When she said "later, dude" you should've said the same thing and just left.

When she starts talking about all the relationship bs you just blow it off, don't take any of that crap seriously. As long as she's coming back for more, you give it to her. When she pushes, you pull and vice versa.

Actions my friend, "actions" are the only thing you need to pay attention to.
 

MyTeamSupreme

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^ Your post was contradictory, unless in interpreting the push pull terminology wrong. Wouldn't me pulling mean that I'm trying to reason with her when she gets distant? (I dont do that but it seems like ur implying that I should)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Tazman

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When she pushes, you also push, etc.
 
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