"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Shes doing Push-Pull to ME?!

baurman

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I met this chick and we've been going out clubbing for the past week. We exchanged numbers the first night and we'd text each other and stuff. We exchanged MySpace, etc. She left me a comment saying "One hell of a week, and it's only just the beginning :)" so I'm thinking cool she might be digging me. Since she talks to my friends and stuff we usually meet up at the same club whenever we do go and we have a great time. However, now when I text her something simple like "How you feeling?" or "How's work?" she does not respond to me. Before she used to respond. I don't call her or anything cause she hasn't responded to me. It seems weird now. Then when we met up at the club it was all like Hey!!! Hugs and ****. Taking pictures like she misses me. Yet when it's time to go home it seems like she avoids me by not responding to my text. Any idea on what to do? I try to push-pull with her too like when I see her, I'd hold her for a little bit and then that's it for the whole night. But I really just want to go out on a date with her just one time. I told her that she should try some Iced Coffee that would really wake her for work and she keeps begging me for Iced Coffee now, but how the hell am I supposed to get that for her if we never go out alone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sav

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she's not interested.. simply put, if a girl is into you she'll be available for you even if its inconvenient for her... avoiding you when its closing time is her way of avoiding confrontation, many girls do this as they are too weak to say "i dont wanna **** you" so they'd just rather avoid the problem..

Also, you arent doing any push-pull on her.. and i dont believe she's doing it on u.. she's just displaying common courtesy of being nice to you when ur around.. dont confuse it with a sign of interest.. havent you ever been nice to somebody because its what is socially acceptable?? same **** happening here...

if she initiates contact with u, it'll be a different ball game.

anyways, good luck, and go meet some other women that will be INTO you..
 

NSUballer

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Simple...Dont text her or see her for hmmm lets say a week or more...the longer the better...then you will know how interested she is...If you must see her, be indifferent, say hey and thats it, if she talks to you, dont conversate with her....dont listen to what she says watch what she does, you can learn so much more about someone if you only observe them than listen to them.
 

Eklipse

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My guess is a female DJ possibly, she starts with High IL level and you think she really likes you, then it suddenly drops for no reasons which confuses the fvck out of you. Don't play her games. You should definitely stop texting her if she not responding. You should see if she iniates contact with you sometime.
 
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