She's disrespectful or am I too sensitive?

[Alpheta]

You can't make her stop. You have to realize that you can't control people's actions. You can only control your reaction to their actions. If she is disrespectful despite your warning, then you cut her off.

When I first started dating my girlfriend, she would put her wet towel out of the shower on my bed. I told her I didn't like it and she said "stop bring so petty".

I simply told her "Well, that's the last time you'll be doing it". She got all mad and walked out of the house. I just chuckled and didn't say a word to her. It didn't take up to 12 hours before she was frantically calling and texting me to apologize.

She not only doesn't do that anymore. She now makes the bed and tidies my room every morning before she leaves.

You have to show a woman that you're willing to walk away because you don't give a sh!t about her disrespectful behavior.

You give a woman ONE warning or notice and if she doesn't comply or at the very least try to offer a reasonable compromise, you walk away.

It stems from an abundance mindset. If your mindset is still stuck on her being "the one", you will forever worship her and be too scared to walk away no matter how disrespectful she is.

TLDR, give her one warning then walk away.

yep thats the plan

 

[pyros]

I dont really understand these kind of 'relationships' where both ppl call each other names, shout, play jealousy games, undermine their partner, etc.

There is something called respect and common sense which is crucial in a relationship with a anyone. Call me crazy.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

She already owns you. Now she gets to play with you for free and get her little kiks. There's a big diff between light hearted teasing and disrespect. She's crossed the line I M O and you need to withdraw attention immediately, NOT wait for any further bad behaviour.

Just don't act butt hurt or weak(er). She'll smell that and whip you for it.

 

[soulforge]

On the subject of disrespect..

If you started dating a girl, and on the first date, she said you was small, and then continued calling you small or tiny alot due to your hieght? Would that bother you?

Hows that different from meeting a girl for a date and calling her fat?

A man can do nothing about his hieght.. i feel its kinda disrespecful as its a direct attack on a mans masculinity..

If she thinks your small, then what are the chances that her nickers might drop if a taller dude came along..

Would it make you feel insecure if your girlfriend made you feel like, you wasn't tall enough?

 

[G_Govan]

You can't make her stop. You have to realize that you can't control people's actions. You can only control your reaction to their actions. If she is disrespectful despite your warning, then you cut her off.

When I first started dating my girlfriend, she would put her wet towel out of the shower on my bed. I told her I didn't like it and she said "stop bring so petty".

I simply told her "Well, that's the last time you'll be doing it". She got all mad and walked out of the house. I just chuckled and didn't say a word to her. It didn't take up to 12 hours before she was frantically calling and texting me to apologize.

She not only doesn't do that anymore. She now makes the bed and tidies my room every morning before she leaves.

You have to show a woman that you're willing to walk away because you don't give a sh!t about her disrespectful behavior.

You give a woman ONE warning or notice and if she doesn't comply or at the very least try to offer a reasonable compromise, you walk away.

It stems from an abundance mindset. If your mindset is still stuck on her being "the one", you will forever worship her and be too scared to walk away no matter how disrespectful she is.

TLDR, give her one warning then walk away.

Almost shed a tear after reading this! I can't for the life of me convince guys I know to respect themselves first if they want women to also respect them. They're too damn scared.

 

[Alpheta]

UPDATE:

So i told her over facetime that i am not going to tolerate her saying 'shut up' 'lil chit' or anything disrespctful. If she thinks its harsh she can go and if she wants to stick around then she knows the deal. I told her its the final time i will ever warn her and if i sense any disrespect i will walk.

She isnt disrespectful when we are serious it sonly when we are joking that she says the above.Overreacting on my pat?i dunno maybe.

Anyways, shes booked a ticked to come see me tomorrow and she sneds me an image of the booking. So jokingly i say 'why didnt yuou tell me before you booked?' 'can you get a refund?' note that i have flaked on her before.

She then proceeds to text 'F off' she realises her mistake and says she was joking and said it jokingly like i have said it to her in the past. I told her not to bother coming anymor.

Now shes texted me saying she was joking but shes sorry and that shes never been mean to me and that when we are arguing that she has never ever disrespected me and that its going to take time to completely change because she has to watch everything she says.

Now i booked a few things for tomorrow and now I feel like wtf.wat do?

Dump?

 

[Alpheta]

bump

 

[Alpheta]

So is she really just kidding when she says "shut up"? I have dated tons of girls who do that and they roll their eyes when they say it, or punch me.....and it's because I'm teasing them.

I think we need better context here.

yea she is always messing. When we get serious i swear and what not she doesnt say a word.

I think ive been unfair but meh ive ended it nonetheless.