She's being difficult! Hard to get!

[styleman]

So its going really well with a girl, been seeing her for over a month now, and meetings have been getting more frequent.
We've made out a couple of times, other times she seems a bit aloof.
Last night I was saying to her I really like you blah blah, she says to me... Let's get to know each other better first before we take this too far. I was like ok, but in my head thinking what the fvck. Then she starts blabbering away typical girl rubbish, we need to make sure it will work first etc. When I got home I messaged her saying you don't need to justify it, I love spending time with you and she was like sure please don't bring it up again I feel awkward talking about it........... So confusing??
How do I get this girl to just lock down and stop this weird attitude with me, she clearly is into me and whenever we've touched on this topic before she's said stuff like why would I spend so much time with you etccc so I have no idea what got into her last night... Help guys!!

 

[Borknagar]

NEXT!

Ok ok maybe not totally next, but start seeing other women.

 

[styleman]

NEXT!

Ok ok maybe not totally next, but start seeing other women.

Why do you think the sudden change of attitude in her?
If I've screwed up how do I not dig my whole deeper and keep options open with her?

 

[styleman]

Had a bit of light convo w her today, I just asked slept well etc kinda to break the ice keep things from being awkward, but she's talking away about what she's doing etc etc... Should I be acting like nothings happened or do I give her the cold shoulder??? Helpppp

 

[CHICAGO27]

A) You should not be telling her that you like her. That is not going to help you.

B) If she is giving you "lets take it slow" line that means she is either holding out for something better or using sex as a bargaining chip.

Get out now!

 

[styleman]

Great but how do I tighten the reigns?

 

[Masculinity]

Possible solution:

Do NOT contact her for a week or simply wait until she contacts you.
When she sees you've "lost interest" she will start wondering what happened and why you haven't called her, if she is truly interested on you.

Don't EVER tell a woman you like her. When you tell her that, you put her in a position where she has you by one of your testicles.

Start seeing other women. NO - the feeling you think is "love" is actually lust or oneitis. Slap yourself across the face and get out of pvssy trance before it's too late!

 

[pipe007]

ok... have you even read the DJ bible?
have you been in this site long enough to understand attraction dynamics between men and women??

if not then its ok, this will be a learning experience for you... you just shot yourself in the foot with your clingy, AFC, needy, girly behavior...

if you already knew what repells women... then understand where you went wrong, this girl was initially attracted to you, and she is losing attraction FAST!!!... the more you contact her from now on, the faster she will lose attraction.. GUARANTEED!!!

first of all, we always say men should NEVER say they like a girl first, let alone tell her that you want to make things exclusive with her... if you do, you kill attraction fast, if you push even more, you lose the girl. PERIOD!

she should be the one who brings up the liking, loving and wanting to push for a relationship, the natural order is for women to take CARE of the relationship... you are already screwed with this one...

UNLESS!!!

1) call her less, see her less, let her contact you, call you first!!!
2) stop telling her you like her or you want a relationship.
3) start doing your own thing, and qualifying her, turn it around and let HER prove herself to you.

you are too AFC to even follow this.. you are probably crying right now as to why she is not contacting you, and your poor feelings are telling you to contact her before she forgets you... pathetic.

 

[TizZle]

pipe007 is spot on.

don't worry tho OP, there's more women out there to gain experience with.

Read the DJ bible.

 

[terran2k]

it's like you're the chic and she's the man. with 325 posts I'd expect you to know better. you acted really girly, you know the main problem i see lately, the guys on here keep trying to get girls into a relationship instead of just trying to have sex with them. instead they're worring about the relationship like the girl should be doing.

 

[5string]

A) You should not be telling her that you like her. That is not going to help you.

B) If she is giving you "lets take it slow" line that means she is either holding out for something better or using sex as a bargaining chip.

Get out now!

ummm......yep^^^

 

[Atom Smasher]

first of all, we always say men should NEVER say they like a girl first, let alone tell her that you want to make things exclusive with her... if you do, you kill attraction fast, if you push even more, you lose the girl. PERIOD!

she should be the one who brings up the liking, loving and wanting to push for a relationship, the natural order is for women to take CARE of the relationship... you are already screwed with this one...

Zactly.

You seem to have enough posts on here to have read the bible. Have you? If not, get to it.

Show her indifference or she will be gone.

 

[styleman]

Ok so I didn't contact her the rest of the day, she messaged me I didn't reply. Its hard for sure I do feel like talking to her... Anyway going to keep this up but ok I made one error otherwise I played the game all right before, so how do I make her forget my moment of weakness?

 

[pipe007]

by doing what you are doing now, and keep doing that...
grab the frame, reclaim your balls again...

establish yourself as the prize in that relationship, you are the most important person in that relationship right? right!.

I know what you are saying now... but what if she doesn't chase me? what if she doesnt call me or if she doesn't feel attracted to me because of my weakness....

you do nothing... you grab the frame of you being the prize, and if she doesnt want you at this point... move on... but dont become all AFC on her at this point...

 

[Lucifero]

Last night I was saying to her I really like you blah blah

:crackup:

Good job.