She's baaaaack....

[bignick79]

About 6 weeks ago i get a break up TEXT, yes TEXT from my gf telling me that she feels empty inside and that she's frustrated that we are still working our relationship while other relationships have flourished. She says she will always have love for me and wished me good luck....classy, huh!!

So over the Thanksgiving holiday just about 4 weeks after the break up text, I get another text wishing me and my family a happy holiday...I sat on it for over an hour, I wished her a happy holiday back and left it alone. I shouldn't have and i actually regret doing it now, but it ended there and no more contact was made.

Finally, this evening i get a random "shout out" She texts me this:
"How are you? Im curious and nosey...and even if we aren't close friends...were still neighbors! How are you?"
(we live about 3 miles apart, not really "neighbors" but you get the idea)

Anyway, what gives? First i make her feel empty inside, now you care how I am and still want to keep contact with me? What is this girl doing? I have not responded back. I think a lot of this reaching out now is guilt from how she ended it, so she's trying to make it like its not really over?!?! Help me out here guys!

Thanks
BigNick

 

[Trump]

So over the Thanksgiving holiday just about 4 weeks after the break up text, I get another text wishing me and my family a happy holiday...I sat on it for over an hour, I wished her a happy holiday back and left it alone. I shouldn't have and i actually regret doing it now, but it ended there and no more contact was made.

Why would you sit on her text for an hour? It's a very simple nice wish, nothing more or less. Why shouldn't you have texted her back wishing her the same? As long as you protect yourself, it's all good.

Finally, this evening i get a random "shout out" She texts me this:
"How are you? Im curious and nosey...and even if we aren't close friends...were still neighbors! How are you?"
(we live about 3 miles apart, not really "neighbors" but you get the idea)

Anyway, what gives? First i make her feel empty inside, now you care how I am and still want to keep contact with me? What is this girl doing? I have not responded back. I think a lot of this reaching out now is guilt from how she ended it, so she's trying to make it like its not really over?!?! Help me out here guys!

You don't need help, that's it. She wants to be the good guy and massage her ego at your expense. Do not reply.

 

[backbreaker]

who the **** cares why she emailed you back or what she wants

the only reason she has power over you is beucase you give it to her. just take the damn ball and go home. delete/go ghost forever

 

[Greasy Pig]

She's just trying to be all friendly to make out she's not the cold, callous bytch she proved herself to be.
Ignore, ignore, ignore. As someone else said: "The best way to get back at an ex is to live on inside her head."
The best way to do that is to get her hamster spinning itself to death. You do that by not responding to her pathetic bullsht.

The thanksgiving text was to test the waters, to see if you'd be receptive to her. Once you responded positively, her hamster got off the wheel.
Don't reply to this latest crap, she doesn't deserve your time, emotions or attention.

 

[TheWolfMan]

I disagree with trump, you should have definitely sat on the thanksgiving text. You played it well with just wishing her a happy one back. She was however probably testing the waters. Also, good job not responding to her next text. She's probably trying to get some information out of you, or to make sure you haven't moved on to bigger better things all for her twisted ego. Whatever other things or guys she had going on probably fell through so she needs your validation again. Stand your ground. Do not respond to any more of her texts. If she proceeds to call you then ignore the first time and if she calls you again then talk to her if you'd like, or wait till the next day after the initial call to call back.

 

[GotED?]

I find from 40 years of experience (myself fall for this as well at times, human nature) - that when an EX contacts you OUT OF THE BLUE after long NC, it is almost GUARANTEED that she just got dumped by another guy, or whatever sh*t she is stirring up in another man's pants are not working as planned.

Give yourself some backbone and don't be the backup plan or ego boost for any EX who has a bruised ego/heart from getting kicked by another guy. MOVE ON.

With respect,

Exodus

 

[pdx1138]

^^What GotEd said.

Isn't it great getting dumped over text? My recent ex did that too.

 

[bignick79]

Totally! Classy as hell, don't you think?? Why be upfront and honest when you can hide behind your phone. In a word, WEAK!

 

[pdx1138]

I asked her what the hell is up with that and she said she was a coward when discussing such things.

 

[Renegade357]

Dude, be a man.

Respond with this:

"We broke up 6 weeks ago and you're contacting me now? Strike out with the other guy already? Have a nice life."

One shot per woman per lifetime.

 

[Hate the game..]

Why would you sit on her text for an hour? It's a very simple nice wish, nothing more or less. Why shouldn't you have texted her back wishing her the same? As long as you protect yourself, it's all good.


Totally agree and to add to that if you don't respond it only makes you look weak because she thinks that you are mad at her indicating that you care. If you reply back with a short non-conversational response it makes it look like you don't care and have moved on, exactly what you want to do.


This chick is craving attention, she will only break you again. Be simplistic about your texts and if she wants to, let her chase you, it will be fun.

But most importantly of all, think to yourself do you really want this girl after she broke up with you over text? I certainly wouldn't.

 

[MikeOck]

Wasting any time at all on someone who disrespected you is the weak move. It isn't about "being mad", it's about having priorities and her "breakup text" should have sent her to the very bottom of your priority list. Besides, who gives a **** what she thinks, she is the past.

 

[Fatal Jay]

she wants her cake and eat it too

I can put it in lamen terms, she found someone more attractive then you, but she still have somewhat emotional ties to you,so if she had you both,it will ease the pain of what she did

every single woman does this, pretty much none are different

a don juan has enough will power to never responds

her contacting you had nothing to do with her wanting you back, it was to see if she still had control over you and that **** boast women egos

don't do it again

 

[vatoloco]

Finally, this evening i get a random "shout out" She texts me this:
"How are you? Im curious and nosey...and even if we aren't close friends...were still neighbors! How are you?"

dafuq!?

Women do this!?



clicky

 

[yuppaz]

With the way she treating you breaking up over text, you are very lucky to be rid of this one. The way to win in this situation is to not respond or speak to this trash again.

 

[goundra]

I"d just ask her if she wants to ****, if so, go get some, if not, nothing lost.

 

[bignick79]

I couldn't help it! I had to say something it was eating away at me. I didn't wanna be a a-hole, but I wanted her to know 1) I don't really give a sh*t about how she is and 2) still make her wonder what's going on with me. So I responded almost a day later.

My response was simple, polite but very general...

"I'm doing great, (insert name here), Thanks for asking!"

It tells her nothing what is really going on with myself and ends the conversation there. Usually one would expect some reciprocation, "how are you?" Nope! Don't care! And I'm sure the wheels are still turning in her head, dying to know if I'm seeing someone or have moved on...any thoughts guys?

BigNick

 

[yuppaz]

WHAT THE F*CK DUDE! She cares so little flro you she dumps you over a TEXT and you feel OBLIGATED to respond to her little "how are you"????

Think about that...She treated you badly, show some self respect and don't communicated with people that do that to you....

 

[GearsGod]

She's confused. In her past she probably had guys that would suck up to her when she broke up with them. She’s being nosey because since you didn’t give that attention to her or the break-up like what most dudes would do and what she Is use to. The whole time you cut contact with her she was wondering “What the hell is he doing? why didn’t he care that I broke up with him?”. So she comes of being nosey and wondering how’ve you been doing… Just kick her to the curve man.. There are plenty women out there waiting to be devoured.. Or you try to bang her as much as you want then ditch her.. But if she's playing games just drop her.. Time is precious my friend, don’t waste it on her.

-GearsGod

 

[Young Juan]

Either don't respond (Best option) or straight up tell her you're not friends with her anymore. Tell her she needs to lose your number and move on like you did. Go NO CONTACT Immediately. The 2nd response will pretty much drop her jaw and get you a pissy long winded text response or a phone call. She will likely try to jab at you with name calling or a sympathy play. You don't fall for it, go no contact. Kick her in the **** and walk away. I know it's immature, but it feels good and I like walking away with the advantage...that's just my immature a55 though.

Don't go into details why, she knows why.