"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Oh, God. In the past 3 months I've had not one but two pretty ladies declare themselves an "empath", which they claim means they are extra caring about how other's feel? Please. Tell that to their ex.

Has anyone heard women use the empath line?

From now on I'll respond like this: "So you're an empath? I'm just an ath".
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Oh, God. In the past 3 months I've had not one but two pretty ladies declare themselves an "empath", which they claim means they are extra caring about how other's feel? Please. Tell that to their ex.

Has anyone heard women use the empath line?

From now on I'll respond like this: "So you're an empath? I'm just an ath".
I've heard them say "sapiosexual" which means discussions of intelligence stimulates them, and they don't like having those conversations.
 

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This is a strange one. I've met many like these; self-declared 'empaths' and genuine ones.

-Self-declared 'empaths' don't really give a sh!t about other people. Rather they are usually huge ego-maniacs, whose 'empathy' is extremely selective, favouring those who either feed the ego or the desired lifestyle of said 'empath'.

-Genuine empaths do not self declare. Rather, some (not all) are martyrs looking to fill a void where should be a self esteem.
 

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This is a strange one. I've met many like these; self-declared 'empaths' and genuine ones.

-Self-declared 'empaths' don't really give a sh!t about other people. Rather they are usually huge ego-maniacs, whose 'empathy' is extremely selective, favouring those who either feed the ego or the desired lifestyle of said 'empath'.

-Genuine empaths do not self declare. Rather, some (not all) are martyrs looking to fill a void where should be a self esteem.
I love your description of the "martyr"
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Oh, God. In the past 3 months I've had not one but two pretty ladies declare themselves an "empath", which they claim means they are extra caring about how other's feel? Please. Tell that to their ex.

Has anyone heard women use the empath line?

From now on I'll respond like this: "So you're an empath? I'm just an ath".
All empath means is they sre capable of empathy. The opposite of sociopath.
 

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Just more identity politics. Another trendy label people can describe themselves as. Ignore it. All the women I talked to who had some special descriptions of themselves that made them different from others were still affected by game.

Definition of Empath: (chiefly in science fiction) a person with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual.

I wonder if people are ever gonna run out of these special labels.
 

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That's wierd. Empaths are people who can empathise and pick up other peoples emotional state by being around them. Imo, every person should be capable of this in order to function healthily and positively in society. In fact, most people do have these traits, except for the extreme few who are disordered. The fact that she's bragging about having traits she should have anyway, is downright stupid.

Probably done for attention, and to boost herself up as some sort of saint in front of everybody. Ugh, immature to say the least.
 

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Nope, never even heard that term before. Kinda glad I didn't either, just another stupid self-gratifying term for egotistical fvcks to feel good about themselves since they let their heads get too big for them. I hate it when people play the high horse sh!t.
 

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The fact that they feel the need to tell you they are an empath leads me to believe their real ability to have empathy has come into question. Like a person who says " hey im a honest guy/girl right before they lie to you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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My girl tries to tell me she has good empathy, she doesn't even know how she herself feels much less others.
 

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This is a strange one. I've met many like these; self-declared 'empaths' and genuine ones.

-Self-declared 'empaths' don't really give a sh!t about other people. Rather they are usually huge ego-maniacs, whose 'empathy' is extremely selective, favouring those who either feed the ego or the desired lifestyle of said 'empath'.

-Genuine empaths do not self declare. Rather, some (not all) are martyrs looking to fill a void where should be a self esteem.
Bolded for emphasis. Absolute truth. Also martyrs who complain all the time about the people they "have to" help. They use the drama in other peoples lives to fill a void of their own or to avoid focusing on their own problems
 

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Women are naturally better at reading body language and emotion, this is a proven scientific fact. Unless you are a sociopath it is almost impossible to lie to a woman you are in a relationship with out her knowing something is up. It's uncanny... but it isn't empathetic magic. This is why women are more prone to magical thinking, they have no idea why they do the things they do.
 

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If you can read my emotions right now why can't you tell I think you are an idiot?

You an empath, great. Why aren't you naked yet? (give her your best lustful look).

Hmmm, horny, sleepy, hungry, horny + hungry + sleepy. How hard can it be?

I am a boob-o-path. I can tell just what you are thinking by feeling your boobs. I'll show you.

Self-aggrandising attention *****. I will put them on the same island as all those wimmin who want to make up their own personal pronouns for themselves and get offended if you don't realize that they want to be called a shi, shir, or some other gender-studies approved title.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Unless you are a sociopath it is almost impossible to lie to a woman you are in a relationship with out her knowing something is up. It's uncanny... but it isn't empathetic magic.
I think you're just a bad liar dude.
 

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I stopped believing women's words long time time ago.

@bigneil you just said it yourself , if she cares about other people's feelings she should tell it to her ex. Empty words .
 
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