"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She's acting distant =(

George7

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Dear members,

I've been with this girl for 2 months already, at first she was all over me and very nice towards me.

That time, i had broken up with my past girl friend due to some reasons so i always talked to this new girl whenever i missed my ex.

It was all going very nice, but i had no feeling's for this new girl at that time.

But a month later, i started giving her some value and being nice with her. And as a result she's got very distant, 99% of the time she give's me lame excuses of not talking. For example:- She is online all the day, and tell me that she is very busy. She cancel dates for the same lame reasons. Which i do believe are lies, she's avoiding me, that's the truth.

I've asked her about it, and she don't admit if there is anything wrong. why don't she just tell me she isn't interested anymore.

I feel like maybe I've crowded her, and that's the reason she's seeing me less.

I am not desperate toward her but it look's like she took me as an insecure guy.

Anyway's what's the best solution when a girl starts losing interest and ignores you? And what's the success rate of getting her interest level back.

Before posting this thread, i've searched the forums. Almost all guys are having exactly this same problem and the responses they get are simply "Move on, next her" etc.

It would be the best of you if you can provide any way of reconciling her interest level.

I've also heard of something called "NC -- No contact", and that it can sometimes work to get her interested back, realize the worth since it's in human nature to only value thing's once they are gone. One question about this rule, what if i start NC now, and she message me? Should i ignore or reply? Explain please.

Thank you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Greasy Pig

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If she's acting distant towards you and won't tell you why, I reckon you should act distant towards her.
Instead of blowing up her phone or trying to meet up, just do something else. If she has feelings for you, she'll be curious about what you've been doing without her and why you've suddenly stopped doting on her.
This may raise her interest level because she thinks you might be nexting her or with another girl.
BUT, if she has no interest in you, she will just break up with you AND try to blame you for it. Be prepared for that, wish her well and walk away.
 

nroug7

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George7 said:
Dear members,

I've been with this girl for 2 months already, at first she was all over me and very nice towards me.

That time, i had broken up with my past girl friend due to some reasons so i always talked to this new girl whenever i missed my ex.

It was all going very nice, but i had no feeling's for this new girl at that time.

But a month later, i started giving her some value and being nice with her. And as a result she's got very distant, 99% of the time she give's me lame excuses of not talking. For example:- She is online all the day, and tell me that she is very busy. She cancel dates for the same lame reasons. Which i do believe are lies, she's avoiding me, that's the truth.

I've asked her about it, and she don't admit if there is anything wrong. why don't she just tell me she isn't interested anymore.

I feel like maybe I've crowded her, and that's the reason she's seeing me less.

I am not desperate toward her but it look's like she took me as an insecure guy.

Anyway's what's the best solution when a girl starts losing interest and ignores you? And what's the success rate of getting her interest level back.

Before posting this thread, i've searched the forums. Almost all guys are having exactly this same problem and the responses they get are simply "Move on, next her" etc.

It would be the best of you if you can provide any way of reconciling her interest level.

I've also heard of something called "NC -- No contact", and that it can sometimes work to get her interested back, realize the worth since it's in human nature to only value thing's once they are gone. One question about this rule, what if i start NC now, and she message me? Should i ignore or reply? Explain please.

Thank you.
Woah, hold on man, you expect me to read all that? Kidding, you're overthinking it. Why does she have to be close to you, I can see why anyones interest level would fall off, you sound clingy, as if she HAS too like you.
I see so many non-clingy people making the mistake of saying stuff like "Maybe i'm not that special anymore" and F***ing it up.
 
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