"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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shes absoultly killing me..why would she do this?

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last week she was all over me and couldnt keep her hands off me...we talked alot during summer and now its school and she was all over me at first...but i never realy paid her much attention and she finaly flipped day before yesterday and asked when i walked by why i acted like i didnt even know her...i admit (but not to her) that i do do this...and now she ignores me and will purposly (at least i think purposly) walk up right to my firneds ans hug them and ignore me...we are just firneds but it was definalty closer than just normal firends...evry time i used to see her she woudl alway ye;l out my name and was so happy...now shes not saying a thing and just take a looka t me and leave..whyywhat should i do...i dont want to lose her :/...and i fear thats whats happening
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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entering the 4th quarter....
1. you f*cked up you had her and now she's prob not interested

2. She's playin the mind game that u tried to play on her and now she's got you in AFC mode...(and if u weren't u wouldn't b posting this)

3. just walk up to her and ask her out if you wanna get with her if not stop tripping

i realize us guys spend too much time in our own thoughts and that's why we f*ck up..if you go off your 1st instinct you'll get more success
 

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Aaron B said:
games, man, plain and simple

Acting like you don't care and fighting fire with fire are the only way to win.
its definatly games i hopebut i started the game unententionaly

and i have no idea what to do
 

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Yea, I agree with Aaron, she's just trying to play the hard-to-get thing, cuz obviously you are.

I wouldn't take that method too extreme, throw in a bit of flirting occasionally, push-pull, like tug of war, keeps the tension up.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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trance_addict said:
Yea, I agree with Aaron, she's just trying to play the hard-to-get thing, cuz obviously you are.

I wouldn't take that method too extreme, throw in a bit of flirting occasionally, push-pull, like tug of war, keeps the tension up.
we always used to do this **** but we havnt talked all this week..ive seen her...but she wont talk to me expet when someone is looking for me etc.....i want to know if i can just act like it never happened tomrorw..
 

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naes420 said:
we always used to do this **** but we havnt talked all this week..ive seen her...but she wont talk to me expet when someone is looking for me etc.....i want to know if i can just act like it never happened tomrorw..
erm..WHY IS SHE DOING THIS TO ME!!! is it realy a game???
 

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naes420 said:
erm..WHY IS SHE DOING THIS TO ME!!! is it realy a game???

It's Pay Back!! If you want her back... Take her back to where it was good. Just go up to her and start talking about the summer when you had fun. Ask about things like remember when... Than Lighten up!!! Don't ignore her just because she is ignoring you now, BUT DON"T CHASE her. If she won't talk to you than don't force it.

Scope out some other honey and serge on. Your young have fun and LIGHTEN UP!!

Peace 'n Beatz
 

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I'm just going to suggest she was in heat and afterwards she PMSed...
http://womenaredogs.ytmnd.com/
Try to figure out her cycle...

Don't ignore her dude...

But when you step the friendship into the relationship area...
You risk losing the friend, usually you do...
 

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Scorched said:
I'm just going to suggest she was in heat and afterwards she PMSed...
http://womenaredogs.ytmnd.com/
Try to figure out her cycle...

Don't ignore her dude...

But when you step the friendship into the relationship area...
You risk losing the friend, usually you do...
she has been also a little more mellow this week as well but she just completly ignores me around other just like what i did...i just did it because i didnt want to bother her but she would litleraly say hi everytime but i never realy replied back just a wave or some stupid ****
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sounds like you're in deep at this point. Just play it cool man. Why don't you just go up to her and talk to her/say hi to her/anything? Just don't act like anything's wrong. Don't ask questions, none of that. Just friendly chatter. If you believe everything's cool then it will be.

I was in a similar situation a couple weeks ago. The girl acted like she was pissed at me and blatantly started ignoring me (after I had unintentionally ignored her). But I just started talking to her again like nothing happened, and she eventually realized I wasn't interested in playing games with her. Within 10 minutes she became really friendly with me again. You gotta take control of the situation and not let what she does affect you.
 

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Refuse2Lose said:
Sounds like you're in deep at this point. Just play it cool man. Why don't you just go up to her and talk to her/say hi to her/anything? Just don't act like anything's wrong. Don't ask questions, none of that. Just friendly chatter. If you believe everything's cool then it will be.

I was in a similar situation a couple weeks ago. The girl acted like she was pissed at me and blatantly started ignoring me (after I had unintentionally ignored her). But I just started talking to her again like nothing happened, and she eventually realized I wasn't interested in playing games with her. Within 10 minutes she became really friendly with me again. You gotta take control of the situation and not let what she does affect you.
im guessing she used to talk about me alot becuase one of my friends wanted me to go to the dance (which this was before she started being ignoring me) because of her...i never found out why though...because the dance was yesterday and instead i went aand got stoned with my buddies (she was already ignoring me at this point so i had no reason to go)...
 

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stop caring about her. she's only playing her games to intentionally mess you up. Use your head and stop being emotional about it; she's not your friend anymore. Don't talk to her or argue with her over anything. Pretend she's invisible to you -- forever.

Its pathetic that she is "absolutely killing" you. That's how a chump thinks. Don't think that way. If it hurts, just keep the pain to yourself and never make mention of it to anyone, because if she finds out you're hurting, or that you want to be her friend again, that will only inflate her ego, and thats what she wants out of the whole situation. She's not your friend and you need to stop having anything to do with her.

if you fail to heed this advice, she and the rest of the school will come to realize you're a pl_lssywhooped loser, and you'll also make things extremely emotionally hard for yourself.
 

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piranha45 said:
stop caring about her. she's only playing her games to intentionally mess you up. Use your head and stop being emotional about it; she's not your friend anymore. Don't talk to her or argue with her over anything. Pretend she's invisible to you -- forever.

Its pathetic that she is "absolutely killing" you. That's how a chump thinks. Don't think that way. If it hurts, just keep the pain to yourself and never make mention of it to anyone, because if she finds out you're hurting, or that you want to be her friend again, that will only inflate her ego, and thats what she wants out of the whole situation. She's not your friend and you need to stop having anything to do with her.

if you fail to heed this advice, she and the rest of the school will come to realize you're a pl_lssywhooped loser, and you'll also make things extremely emotionally hard for yourself.
er, we are friemds i domt want to fuvk her
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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why the hell do you CARE SO MUCH ABOUT THAT OOAWJOAOFEOEEIIEJJ??????????????
GOD DAMN MAN,,,,, WHATS YOUR PROBLEM?
 

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What did you expect, seriously? She's overjoyed to see you, and you barely give her a glance? Duh. She got tired of the lack of reciprication.

You took 'being a challenge' and turned it into 'being impossible'. I wouldn't wanna be your friend either.
 

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Ace of Flames said:
What did you expect, seriously? She's overjoyed to see you, and you barely give her a glance? Duh. She got tired of the lack of reciprication.

You took 'being a challenge' and turned it into 'being impossible'. I wouldn't wanna be your friend either.
i think you where right

i decided to be nice and i msged her first on msn for the first time...so she would get the idea that i dont hate her (had a feeling she wanted to talk to me because as soon as i signed in she instantly signs in...as soon as i sign out she instantly signed out, then went back on in ten minutes she conviently signs in again at the same time) and now i say hi back and actualy give her some attention and its back how we used to be exept a little better for her im guessing :]

hehehe thanks
 
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