She's a great girl, BUT...

[aussiegoat55]

It's as if she doesn't embrace her sexuality. She has interest in me as she's willingly gone with my date plans, called me to do things too, laughs and smiles all the time. But the kicker is when I made a move by putting my arm around her while we were watching a movie in her dorm room, she just kind of sat there. She may have been nervous, uncomfortable, light resistance, smiling on the inside, whatever, but there wasn't any reciprocation of affection. And it's kind of hard for me to continue to progress through the bases if she's giving off these uncomfortable vibes.

She says she's gullible and shy and has a hard time trusting people so I plan on physically advancing real slow, while steering clear of LJBF. She is a good girl and I think sex to her would seem taboo and dirty. It's hard for me to imagine if she even masturbates. She may even still be a virgin. I don't know how much experience with guys she's had either. Anyone know the type of girl I'm referring to?

The two of us have so much in common, same passions, same dreams, similar music preferences, we both have integrity, we don't drink/smoke/do drugs, (hard to find these women in a college setting), she's real pretty, the list goes on. Essentially, she's what I'm looking for in a women.

So any opinions and input would be appreciated. Thanks. In the meantime I'll go slow to build a level of comfort with her.

 

[Blackmm]

The fact that she didn't physically remove your arm off her or told you to move it should be signs that she didn't mind the attention. Escalate and see where it goes.

 

[squirrels]

The fact that she didn't physically remove your arm off her or told you to move it should be signs that she didn't mind the attention. Escalate and see where it goes.

Truth.

Some of those girls are asexual. Some are SO sexual, they scare themselves, so they keep it all inside. Maybe they DO think it's bad. But it doesn't mean they don't like it.

If you're going to movies and sh!t, though, then you're in the first couple dates anyway. Just escalate a little more each time. An arm around her the first date, around the waist on the second, a hand on the thigh the third time...get frisky. Just do it gradually.

 

[aliasguy]

YOU have to escalate. That your job.

Forget whether she is shy, repressed, whatever.

Make her say "No."

Don't assume a no because she's not aggressive.


YOU have to move it along. What do you want her to do, be the aggressor?

Be the MAN. Go for it. Jeez.

Butch up.