She wont let me go down on her

[diceman]

OK,

I've been in a relationship for over 2 years now. Though 1 problem that is now really getting to me is that my gf seems to hate receiving oral sex.

She is my first proper gf & when we first started seeing each other i'd go down on her all the time & i LOVE doing it & she seemed to enjoy it aswell. Though as time went on she would pull me from her lap and make me have sex with her.

Not a problem really, but the time i would spend going down on her was getting less and less. Then when i did go down there she would show no reaction and basically be a statue untill i stopped. I threw the suggestion that i could perform oral and her reaction was like she was doing me a favour for letting me do it! (& not actually excited by the prospect). Then it got to the point where i would start going down on her and she would push me off of her saying she doesn't feel like it.

I remember when 3 times in a week she did this & i decided that i wouldn't even try to go down on her or ask anymore to see what she'd do.. That was 4 months ago & she hasn't even mentioned anything about me not going down on her or shown any emotion towards it.
It's frustrating because the very last time i did it i gave her an orgasm & she seemed to enjoy it.

This is getting to be a HUGE problem as, believe it or not, i absolutly LOVE going down on women. Sometimes it turns me on more than actually recieving oral sex myself!
She knows how much i enjoy it and in the past when i ask about it she just kinda mentions that she likes sex more than oral. But now it's just depressing me. Because foreplay has now become pointless my enthusiasm for sex has declined.

I REALLY miss it. But it's obvious that she doesn't enjoy it so even if i do go down on her again i know that she's not getting off on it and just doing it for my benefit.. so i'm not gonna enjoy it anymore..

What the hell can i do about this?

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

I can relate.

I love giving it more than my girl likes getting it.

I think 99% of these cases come from girls thinking they stink or smell funny.

Have you tried talking to her about it?
Open some serious communications about it one day.

If she really doesn't like it (as in it's about as sexually stimulating to her as a handshake) then let her know you expect her to fake it because YOU like it.

If it's an insecurity then let her know she tastes and smells good. And let her know tha even on those smelly days you undesrtand (hey, we all get stinky sacks and cracks after a long day without a shower.)

 

[Interceptor]

You have to take charge and tell her youre not happy anymore with this dynamic.
She's shutting you out and deciding your terms, whether you like it or not.
If youre not happy with this dynamic, you have to take action and bring it up to her.
This is a pretty disrupting choice on her part, and she's not understanding nor apparently caring about the effect it is having on you.

Do not just let this play out like this.
Stop what youre doing and bring this to her attention once and for all.

 

[Captain]

I think she's getting bored, not turned on enough, not attracted enough. If she was really into it, she'd be wanting it and asking for it.

You need to get her aroused, and then start foreplay. Work your way down slowly. If she is attracted to you, and doesn't have any mental hang ups about it, she'll want it and enjoy it.

If that doesn't want, talk to her about it. If you aren't happy with the result, leave her.

 

[Tazman]

Women can and do often fake orgasms, they're quite good at it too. Has it ever crossed your mind that she might not like the way you do it?

I think just about every chick I've been with says they don't get it often enough, but I can definitely see them being turned off of the idea if your technique isn't working for them.

It sounds like the reason it was all good before was probably because she didn't want to hurt your feelings, then eventually she just got tired of pretending to like it.

Has she been acting differently in any other way (other than sex) or is it just this one thing?

 

[MightyMate]

I know its harsh but i would skip her..

 

[Credos]

We belgians have a song that will INSTANTLY fix your problem!

here's the link to it

let her hear this and you'll be in there fo sure

 

[DJDamage]

So date other women who will let you go down on them, what's the problem?!

Personally I don't find deep sea diving all that great, so if I find a girl that sucks a good d1ck and likes to fvck that's all I need.