Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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She wont let me do anal

wonderer

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Howiestern said:
By doing something like this you have let her sechsuality over power you. This is how you lose frame. You have given her control over the sechsual relationship and now you don't like the result. Now its about her getting what she wants. She isn't worried about pleasing you, only herself.

Here's a good rule of thumb about life...the one who cares the least has the most power.

I used to always crave sechs and wanted it more than my partner did. As a result she became the gate keeper and called the shots. I learned later in life that if you don't let your cravings control you that you will be the one in control of how and when, not her. She will be begging you and be much more submissive to your desires.
Lesson learned. But what do you think I shlould do now?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Jaylan

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wonderer said:
My gf wont let me do anal with her. shes let her exes do it but says she makes people wait for it.

I had sex with her during my holy month which I really really shouldnt have and I feel liek she owes it me. Unfair I know. But I feel like **** when she said no, even though others have and put it all into perspective.

I tried to talk it through with her a bit but shes not budging.
Most chicks dont like it, especially if theyve been pressured in the past to do something they werent much into. Harassing her now wont make her more inclined to do it. Dont fvk up your sex life begging to screw an azzhole if youre already getting good puzzy. Pressuring a girl about sex is a quick way to getting less sex.

Maybe hint for it once in a while during a really intense sexy moment...but dont push this often. If youre getting good oral and good puzzy, dont sweat the anal thing too much. Also, like someone else said, I personally wouldnt be too thrilled dating a woman thats had multiple penises in her bum. Im grossed out by anal myself though.
 
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Use assertive dominance - Just hand her a strap-on and bend over.

Or you can tell her you're constipated, if she is a good GF she'll help out.
 

VladPatton

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You gotta get her excited about it! Next time you're doggystylin her like a boss, slide your thumb in her balloon knot. You know, kinda like how you finger a bowling ball, except don't wind up to throw her down a wooden alley. See how she reacts. You're looking for lot's of ooh's and aah's, not bucking like a bull that just got his nuts cut off with a rusty tuna can lid. Good luck!
 
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