"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fly By Night

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Well these past 2 weeks I've been seeing someone, but the problem is that I have to initiate any type of meet up or date. I feel like she likes me, we've kissed and made out. It's just that she will never ask me if I want to hang out, it's always me who starts it. I text her about twice a week since we made a workout schedule together, but it seems like she doesn't like me to the point that she will go out of her way to see me.

How do you guys get girls crazy to the point that if they see you, they'll shout your name then give you a huge hug because I've never made it to that level. :(
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Fly By Night said:
Well these past 2 weeks I've been seeing someone, but the problem is that I have to initiate any type of meet up or date. I feel like she likes me, we've kissed and made out. It's just that she will never ask me if I want to hang out, it's always me who starts it. I text her about twice a week since we made a workout schedule together, but it seems like she doesn't like me to the point that she will go out of her way to see me.

How do you guys get girls crazy to the point that if they see you, they'll shout your name then give you a huge hug because I've never made it to that level. :(
I have 2 problems with this situation:

1. It's 2 weeks of dating, and you made a workout schedule together. She's some girl you've made out with. Not your longterm girlfriend.

2. It's 2 weeks and you're worried about her being crazy about you. It's 2 weeks. You barely know each other...at least from a dating perspective.

You wanna know how to get girls more interested in seeing you? Have sex with them. Right now, she's still in the power position. She has the carrot to dangle in front of you, to keep you chasing her. (the carrot is sex, in case you didn't realize)
 

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To tell you the truth its no big deal that you need to make the dates to hangout, since its only been two weeks this girls obviously has some type of feeling for you since she isn't flaking or anything so just relax and remain in control and you'll be fine :rock: and remember two weeks isnt that long of a time.
 

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Iceberg said:
I have 2 problems with this situation:

1. It's 2 weeks of dating, and you made a workout schedule together. She's some girl you've made out with. Not your longterm girlfriend.

2. It's 2 weeks and you're worried about her being crazy about you. It's 2 weeks. You barely know each other...at least from a dating perspective.

You wanna know how to get girls more interested in seeing you? Have sex with them. Right now, she's still in the power position. She has the carrot to dangle in front of you, to keep you chasing her. (the carrot is sex, in case you didn't realize)
thats if he gives it to her good
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Two weeks and you've only madeout with her? Did you at least see some draws??!

If the girl was really interested you would have been had sex with her. To me it sounds like she has a main dude and she is messing with you for egotistical purposes. You got to make her sh!t or get off the toilet.
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Two weeks and you've only madeout with her? Did you at least see some draws??! If the girl was really interested you would have been had sex with her.
Uh yeah... not every girl is easy. At 1 date/week you're expecting she puts out on the second date. I'd say a makeout by the second date is perfectly acceptable.

OP, you are simply asking: how can one increase the IL of a female? I would rephrase your question in those terms.

A girl's IL depends solely on how she views your worth (are you low-quality, high-quality...). You get her to have a high IL through a combination of 1.) having good attributes (looks, intelligence, and so on) and 2.) tricking her into thinking you have good attributes (by acting unneedy, etc. ... this is what we call Game).

So improve 1.) and improve 2.) to increase her IL. For example, you could show pictures of yourself with hot girls on Facebook. That would fall under 2.), your Game.

Iceberg said:
It's 2 weeks of dating, and you made a workout schedule together. She's some girl you've made out with. Not your longterm girlfriend.
As Iceberg pointed out, here is a problem in your Game. Don't be making textbook mistakes.
 

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Just because you are initiating right now isn't that big of a deal, don't sweat it. You are wanting more power, and wanting her to be more attracted, basically. To me that means she needs to very much want you sexually, that's usually how it goes down with me and the girls I end up hooking up with, she is turned on big time and eager to get together. I don't rush it or push it, I just let the attraction happen and assume that she wants my d1ck BAD. Take your time. Years ago I heard this saying / story that made no sense at the time but makes all the sense in the world now:

An old bull and a young bull are standing at the top of a hill looking down at a hundred cows. The young bull gets excited and says "Hey, let's run down there and f*ck one of those cows" - the old bull looks at him and sais "Let's walk down and f*ck them all".

Patience / delayed gratification win the day.
 

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This guy isn't dating this chick once a week if he has time to do workouts with her. He has seen her multiple times sigh.
 

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Yes, I've seen her four times now. I have not had good game with girls before so getting to this level with women is still foreign to me...

After these four meetups, I'm guessing you guys want me to just run inside her pants? She seems like someone who wouldn't have sex with a guy just like that so I was trying to take it slow. Then again, I've read that all women want sex just as much as guys.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Some of these girls don't seem like anything. You'd be surprised what most of these girls will do when you try her up. But after 4 meetups with a chick it is definitely time to sh!t or get off the toilet.

Scratch the workout schedule. If you want to workout go do it by yourself. What you need to do is invite her to the crib and have a go for broke mentality. Just see where her head is at.
 

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Just so we're on the same page, I'm in college so it would be weird if I was like "come to my room...", but I could invite her out to a party or something of the sort.

How do I show my age on this forum? lol
 

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Your making excuses. Im in college too. Even when I did have a dorm Id invite girls to the crib. If they are interested they will come. Quit putting yourself down with that negative energy.
 

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honest advice, i havent been in colelge in awhile but the easiest way to get in her pants if you guys have already made out... is to invite her to a party.

then take her home afterwards.
 

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Fly By Night said:
Just so we're on the same page, I'm in college so it would be weird if I was like "come to my room...", but I could invite her out to a party or something of the sort.

How do I show my age on this forum? lol
It won't. I'm in college and it doesn't matter. Just don't blurt out come to my room. Just make any excuse to get her to your room that has a pretense like it could be something innocent. Like "Hey I have a really awesome fish collection, let me show you" and eventually when you get to the room and you 2 are alone you escalate. You've already kissed her so try to make it an intense make-out session and push for more...

Like I said it doesn't matter, if you feel comfortable bringing her to a party first then do it, but it really doesn't matter. Go see a movie, go have lunch, do nothing and go straight to your room it doesn't matter.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Fly By Night said:
After these four meetups, I'm guessing you guys want me to just run inside her pants? She seems like someone who wouldn't have sex with a guy just like that so I was trying to take it slow. Then again, I've read that all women want sex just as much as guys.
there you go putting her on a pedestal. OP better get into the right frame of mind else your princess will be another castle getting her brain ****ed by some random dude soon enough
 
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