she was talking to her ex last night

[xectxny19x]

I was pretty tired last night but called up a girl I'm currently seeing just to check in. She said she'd call me back after talking to her ex. Her ex wanted some advice on asking a girl out. When she called me back, I was already sleepy. She asked if I was cutting her off. I said I wasn't. That's that.

The thing is I am tired. :yawn: Thinking about taking a week long break from her. I just don't want her to think I'm mad about her talking to her ex, because I don't really care. I'm just too tired to spend much time with her. Need at least a week to recoup some energy.

What do you all think? Can I just take my break without explaining myself or should I tell her first? Seems like a nice girl. I like her so far but need more time to get to know her. For some reason, because she's so nice, I feel like I should check in with her sometime which I think is weird. I don't check in with other girls.

 

[scrouds]

Called her to check in? But you want a break? Get your story straight and come back here.

 

[women haze]

sounds like you are mad she is talking to her ex.....why take a break. Just go no contact and let her call you *shrugs*

 

[Cashew]

It doesn't matter what you tell her, she will probably think you are mad at her for talking with her ex no matter what. You can always say that you were mad at first (even though you might not have been) but after you thought about it you realized it wasn't anything to get worked up over.

Sometimes you have to decide between being honest, and her not believing you; or being dishonest in a way she thinks is honesty or what she wants to hear. I am not condoning lying, but what's the point in telling the truth when you KNOW she won't believe the truth and decide that you are lying anyway? Sometimes being honest creates unnecessary problems that a small lie would avoid when the topic isn't even a big deal to begin with.

 

[acehole]

Dude you know youre bugged by her talking to her ex. Its ok to admit on here just no to her. Dont cut her off for a week if you like her cause then shell just run right back to her ex. Ive been with girls that have been talking to their exes after their recent break up i mean in the room and guess who they were fvcking after they got off the phone. Let them talk if it is a recent break up which it sounds like. No big deal. Now if it was like 6 months then it should be something but it doesnt sound like it in this case.

 

[ima str8 up pimp]

acehole... I've got a response for your slick ass on my last thread here.. don't even pretend you're missing it. You know? yeah, fagot. haha.

 

[xectxny19x]

It doesn't matter what you tell her, she will probably think you are mad at her for talking with her ex no matter what. You can always say that you were mad at first (even though you might not have been) but after you thought about it you realized it wasn't anything to get worked up over.

Sometimes you have to decide between being honest, and her not believing you; or being dishonest in a way she thinks is honesty or what she wants to hear. I am not condoning lying, but what's the point in telling the truth when you KNOW she won't believe the truth and decide that you are lying anyway? Sometimes being honest creates unnecessary problems that a small lie would avoid when the topic isn't even a big deal to begin with.

Thanks. I won't tell her the truth that I need a break. She'll probably just think I'm lying like most of the responses here. If the guys think that, she'll probably think the same. :nervous:

It didn't even occur to me until she asked if I was cutting her off, b/c she was talking to the ex. Just a coincidence. I've actually been thinking about using her talking to her ex as a justifiable reason for me to go on my break, but I just don't think that's right.

Sometimes I feel like checking in with her because she seems like a nice girl. She's always checking in with me. Don't want to leave her hangin and wondering about where I am. Kinda feel guilty. I'll just go on my break without telling her.

Yep. Hasn't been that long with her. We've only been dating for 3 months.

 

[cola]

Redundant dribble. Seems like its different questions on this forum that usually require the same answer which is MAN UP! If you don't want to talk to her or see her you shouldn't feel obligated to because you are a man and she is a woman and you have other priorities such as constant self improvement, work, your health and host of other things, she should be last priority..

 

[DonGorgon]

she is still fing her ex and a few other dudes.. can you handle that? I see keep her for sex but dont expect commitment..

 

[xectxny19x]

Redundant dribble. Seems like its different questions on this forum that usually require the same answer which is MAN UP! If you don't want to talk to her or see her you shouldn't feel obligated to because you are a man and she is a woman and you have other priorities such as constant self improvement, work, your health and host of other things, she should be last priority..

thanks! i need the reminder!

i don't really care what she's up to with other dudes. so long as when we hang out, she is there 100%. what do other dudes have to do with me? she's not my exclusive gf.

 

[acehole]

Dude you care about this b1tch thats why youre posting on here. So your saying if you went over her house and she was fvcking another dude you would be like "oh I dont care I'll call you tommorrow". Also do you really wanna hang out with her when she is fvckin her ex, cause she is. No other reason why they would talk.

 

[xectxny19x]

of course, i care about her. she's one of my favs. the thing with the other dudes is i wouldn't want her in my business. i'd extend the same courtesy. what i'm worried about is losing her by going no contact, b/c i just need some room to focus on other things.

now her not being over her ex would be something i'd have to seriously consider, if i'm thinking about being exclusive with her. but since i'm still getting to know her, she can do whatever with whoever she wants.

 

[acehole]

Yes what you say is true. You will lose her if you go no contact i think. The only if you go NC is if her ex does some fvcked up sh1t then shell come running back.

Ive dealt with ch1cks that just got out of LTRs. I would litterally be in the room and just fvcked them when their exes were calling them. I would clean off my sh1t sit there and listen to her tell her ex just give me time dont worry blah blah then we would go out and fvck again right after. I wasnt like well i create space. You want her you gotta be in the picture constantly espcially if the ex is still in the picture. It will make her decide if you are a better person or atleast give you a shot. If you got good game shell stay with you,. If you dont shell go to the ex.

 

[Badmannaz]

sounds like you are mad she is talking to her ex.....why take a break. Just go no contact and let her call you *shrugs*

I AGREE you need to ask is she complimenting your lifestyle..if not...let her go...simple as that...the dating world is eat or be eatin...until you find somebody to eat with you...