She wants your number, dude!

[Flaire]

Really, that's not what this topic is about. I've been watching this forum for a little while and I made a few observations about us men by reading these forums for so many years. Yes, I'm an observer. I watch and only give my advice when I feel the need to.

I'm not an expert with women. Far from it. I am not the most experienced guy in "the field". Far from that too. I live in a small town and sleeping with every chick in this town is not on the top of my priority list. I live where people come to settle down, not where people come to get laid. Single guys like me who find themselves stuck here due to bills and what not, have a hard time finding relationships in this town, but that's not what I'm here to talk to you about.

What I'm here to talk to you about is a few observations I have made.

- We're not here to get laid. Look at the majority of the posts that either hint at wanting more then a one night stand, say they are "done with the game" in exchange for "something real" or are completely made up complete with gangsta speak and all. How many men here really have sex with another woman every single night? I'm willing to place bets on less then 1%. Otherwise, what are you doing here? You don't need our advice!

- Everyone wants to tell their story. How they went from the nerdy kid in high school that drew anime pictures on the back of notebooks to the superstar pimp of the world to settling down with that special someone. Everyone deserves to tell their story, tell it.

- There is someone out there for you no matter who you are. This isn't exactly a forum observation, but a life observation that ties in with the forums, cause just read some of the real success stories. I have seen nerdy men hook up with nerdy chicks that play World of Warcraft all day in the same room with each other! I have seen some of the ugliest men hook up with some of the hottest women and have children a few years down the road. I have seen some of the ugliest women hook up with some of the most good looking men. There are both men and women out there that want nothing more then to get as much sex with as many partners as they can, sometimes they'll settle for the same partner as long as there is a lot of sex involved. But on the opposite end of the spectrum, I see a lot of men and women that want nothing more then to feel something "real". That could care less about the bang in the bedroom but would rather feel their heart beating next to anothers.

I'm not here to change your views on things nor am I here to make fun of this forum or put anyone down. I'm here to share my observations. I guess in the long run I'm hoping that someone sees this and realizes what I have so that they can "keep it real" with one another instead of pretending to be someone they are not.

Until next time,
Flaire

 

[MisterMcGee]

I can tell you're at least slightly chodish. Why? Because you spend the first half of this post justifying the clear lack of sexual experience you have. But nobody asked. Why do you automatically feel like you're below anyone? Why do you tell us these random facts about yourself? Is it because you don't want us to find out and stuff it in your face down the line? Is it because you think that, by saying it before we find out, you can "frame" your lack of a sex life in a more positive way?

Secondly, nothing in life comes to you without effort. This website is about teaching people how to proactively take control of their lives. Your post contains some personal insights, but that's it. Post this in the don-juan tips section instead, because there's no actual conversation to be had here.

 

[Flaire]

It's my first post on this forum and I feel the reader needs a little background as to who I am. Call it an introductory post, if you will. I have decided to make a username and introduce myself to the community that I have observed for a couple of years. I should have made that clearer that I was introducing myself, my bad. The next part of the post goes on to explain some observations that I have made while looking through this forum and the final part of the post calls out for honesty between one another.

The main observation that I have made is that everyone wants to be the "Don Juan" that no one forgets but in the end, most of us want nothing more then to find someone special and I wish, for the sake of the community, that people would realize this. By opening our eyes to the real world, we can then evaluate the female mind by evaluating our own.

Someone posted on this forum shortly before I posted this "when you have 6 women telling you that they want to have sex with you and that they don't care if you're having sex with the other 5, that's when you have a problem". I was tempted to post a sarcastic response, because this is far from the truth. I beg the question, would YOU have sex with a woman that is sleeping with 5 other men on the side? A great amount of us would say "hell no". Well, that's the same with women. Some women don't mind, while others are looking for something a little more exclusive.

Then I realized that his beliefs came directly from being told that all women think one way, which is a theory that became widespread after so many posters became dishonest with each other.

I understand that this website in particular is here to improve ones confidence in speaking with women and I am all for self improvement. I am all for the theory of digging through the pebbles to find a golden nugget. Let me make this a little simpler.

Hi, my name is Flaire.

 

[KontrollerX]

"I'm not an expert with women. Far from it."

With a name like Flair I expected you to come on here and tell us how you are a limosuine ridin, jet flyin son of a gun and that all the women you've ever known you've taken on that long ride up space mountain.

Then you'd conclude your post with a Woooooooooooooo!

Well thats what I was hoping you'd do anyway. :yes: :rock: