"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she wants to get to know me first

Zerotwoonenine

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i am have been going out with my girlfriend for a couple of weeks now and i want to move things further on, so last friday i invited around my house, we watched a movie, i invited her upstairs, we danced to romantic music, made out and stuff, but when i tried to move things on, i felt resistance, so i said:"would you be comforatble if i moved things on?", she said:" no i want to get to know you first.", me and my girlfriend have never had any kind of sexual experience before, i didn't want to push it and so we went down again and watched another movie, we had a great time and she left.
Shes coming around tommorow to watch another movie, we got the whole half term, i am going to cook something for her tommrow and i wont raise the question up again untill later.
My questions is: how long should i wait for, i know if i wait for too long then i risk moving to the friend zone, but if i push the question up too soon i will be seem as desperate. So how long? one week? two weeks? we have been dating for 2 or 3 weeks now.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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djweses89

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Well one thing stop gettin her to come over to watch movies. Can only get to have so much fun watchin movies instead take her out somewhere shes never been or ate before go out do something new. Making dinner and watching a movie is fun and all but its not something you wanna do more than once or twice altease not without doin some other stuff inbetween. Like try to go to this place called D1ck's(its not spelled with a 1 just had to do it cus it stars it out) if theres one around your area its a resteraunt where you waiter is like ****y says rude things very fun place to go lots of laughs good mood environment. Do more stuff to make her think you more exciting more fun and interesting unpridictable things to make her say i really really like this dude things to make her say to herself i wanna give it up to this guy. but thats the best i got for ya haha cus ive never had that problem where they didnt wanna move on to the next level
 

Zaraza

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what could be stopping her, is she might be afraid that you wont like her body. She might not be fully happy with her appearance and thinks that if she opens up to you, you wont see it as beauty. Sometimes girls do that with their boobs, or they p*ss (if they dont shave, or just trim). In a girls mind, there are "supposed" expectations they have to live up to.

thats just my 2 cents, i dont know what you should do, but thtas just somehting to think about.
 
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