She wants to get "serious". Is it worth it?

[Production6257]

I have been "dating" this girl for about a month or so now, and we have been having a lot of sex, hanging out, etc. Personally, I like the deal that we have going right now. The sex has been awesome, but lately she has been withholding it to a degree. She did give me a BJ a couple days ago, but then complained the next day about how I "make her feel like she MUST have sex with me". This is because she wants a serious relationship, and thinks that I am just using her for sex. Honestly, I'm not sure what I am doing, because when she is over all I want to do is bang her (she is by far the hottest girl and best sex partner I have ever had). I do think that she is pretty cool to hang around with though.

She has been putting a lot of pressure on me lately for a serious relationship and I'm not even all that sure what a "serious relationship" is. At the same time she goes out of her way to say things like "You make me love my body so much, but it could be a bad thing for you because it makes me more ballsy around other guys". To which I respond (As a DJ would), "Well go for it then". Then she gets mad and starts whining about how I don't care about her, etc. I mean, I do care I guess. If she was to get with another guy it would probably make me jealous/angry. I'm just not sure what changes once we are "official".

Can somebody explain this to me?

 

[Production6257]

Wow. She told me that we couldn't have sex again until it got serious, and we did it again last night! Girls really do say one thing, and do another.

On another note, she told me last night that she thinks about me all the time and told me that she loves me. I do have feelings for her so it doesn't freak me out too much, but I wouldn't tell a girl I love her for a long time because I refuse to become an AFC again. That's what worries me about relationships though. Once a girl has you, doesn't it get boring for her since there is no "chase" anymore? This is what confuses me and makes me hesitant to start a serious relationship beyond the sex.

 

[The Sperminator]

I know guys tell you play hard to get and so forth but I don't agree with that. If she likes you and you like her whats the problem? Just go for it. If she only likes you for the chase then what happens when your not a challenge anymore? Your gone. A girl should like you for you not for the challenge. Those types of girls are the ones that dump her bf once the chase is over or until she finds someone whos more of a challenge.

 

[sav]

why are you having commitment issues?

do you like somebody else?

do you have other girls that you are MORE interested in?

i dont see why you give it a try if you like her... she's into you.. she cant make it more OBVIOUS...

 

[Last Man Standing]

Getting "serious" with a hor is the equivalent of kissing A SHARK IN THE MOUTH!!

You will be devoured!

 

[yama600rr]

damn bro... are you a baby or what? you do need people to walk you through everything? if you like her then get with her, if not then fvck her as long as you can until she stopping giving it up.

 

[KontrollerX]

I don't like how she's trying to manipulate you into a relationship by saying she'll withhold sex if you don't give her this but eh if your gut instinct is telling you that she really does want something real with you and really does enjoy being with you and she's not just trying to get you to fall in love with her just to accomplish some goal of conquering you then its alright.

If you like her and she likes you go for the relationship but only if its truly what you want.

This is your life not her life to manipulate you to her will.

Do what you want and if its be her boyfriend or not then so be it, its all your decision bro.

Also that whole thing about using her for sex is some ancient feminist bullsh!t.

It takes two to tango after all.