She wants to be friends

[Jizz]

She has a bf, shes a bit of an attention seeker, but i let her off a lil coz shes actually a cool gal,

shes angry that i dont wanna be her friend, shes said things like get out of my life and leave me alone, but then shes also tried to get me to be her friend again!

her bf had words with me about talking to me and stuff, and shes said leave him alone and get out of mylife and stuff

but i told her quite frankly i didnt wanna be her friend, that i fancied her and when shes single ill chat to her, but not untill then. i also said it was best for her relationship, and she replied with comments like "how can you fancy me and not want to talk to me?" and "as long as you dont act on it, it wont complicate things"

i said that she couldnt expect me to talk to her and not act on it, so its best we dont talk

i know i have done the right thing, but i need some ppl to tell me this and to tell me to keep it up, because im getting the urge to tell her after a few days of not talking to her that im thinking maybe i was wrong and maybe i wanna talk to her again

i wanna keep up the no contact for this week as i wont see her (were not at college together this week) and then at least the next week because we have a party that weekend that i know were both going to, so i can find out what shes been upto and stuff then

cheers for any advice etc

 

[backbreaker]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=86887

3 posts down... READ before you post

 

[locarius]

Why do you guys have such a problem having female friends? Don't you realize that it can really be beneficial? You get to hang around women more, which will help with calibration issues. Also cool attractive females have cool attractive friends.

Sure, if you are in oneitis with her, cut off contact, but if not, go out and make 3 cool and attractive female friends.

 

[Jizz]

Yeh i did read that post and yes i agree i should treat her no differently, but this gal was texting me alot, and this gal was desperate for us to be friends, and im pretty sure i was becoming her best male friend, bar her bf.

no other gal i know has been like this and i may of made a mistake of telling her i didnt want to be friends, where instead i should of just gradually not text back etc to of built up the mystery but i made a mistake and now i have to deal with it

and im just wondering if you or anyone else has any advice on how to deal with this?

also no offence but that post hardly makes much sense

 

[Jizz]

Originally posted by locarius
Why do you guys have such a problem having female friends? Don't you realize that it can really be beneficial? You get to hang around women more, which will help with calibration issues. Also cool attractive females have cool attractive friends.

Sure, if you are in oneitis with her, cut off contact, but if not, go out and make 3 cool and attractive female friends.

i have no problem with having a female friend and im really tempted to make contact with this gal again and become just her friend (saying that her friends that ive met so far are ugly lol)

but now that ive decided to cut off the contact the oneitis is starting to set in

i know that if i want this gal that cutting off contact is for the best and the only way it may happen or ill get over her

but i know that me and her just aint gona happen, shes happy with her bf (ish) and im missing talking to this gal because shes actually a cool gal, and im tempted to just have her as a friend, which will be fine but i dunno if i will start to have bigger oneitis on this gal

 

[donjuanapprentice01]

Hey Jizz, I have a similar problem as you.

I have a female "friend" also, she is single with a kid.

She wants to be friends, but doesn't want to go further than that. I, of course, want more. But she really wants to be friends with me (possibly because she don't have many other friends in the first place). But, you know, it's tuff to be friends with a chick you want to bang.

In my case, it ain't worth it to me to be friends with her because, eventually she will find some other dude to fvck and that will be tuff on me. However, at this point in time, she is single, so I'll still "game" her when I see her, which won't be often anymore cuz I told her I wanted more than friends. I more or less made her an ultimatum, either give a relationship with me a try, or forget being friends as it's too much for me to take. So far, seems like she would rather not be friends.

In your case, I'd stay away as she has a bf. I was in a similar situation a few years ago, and I stayed friends so I could make a move when she broke up. Well, eventually she did, but she still passed me up, so I told her to fvck off. Didn't help that I was major AFC in that case though, but that's a story for another time.

If I were you, I'd bail. Or at least try to find out if she has any sexual feelings for you. But, don't be the "guy on the side" so to speak, especially if you ain't getting her pvssy.

 

[backbreaker]

the only time it's cool to be the "other guy" is if you are tappin it... if not, you are wasting your time, as she doesn't want you, she wants your attention.

the point is, and this is the farthest thing from a flame, but your problem isn't different from alot of guys here.

Alot of us have been LJBFed before.

If you would have used the search funtion and type in LJBF, you would see that.

My advice, as well as everyone elses, is MOVE ON... we have all made mistakes so that the new people here, ,as in you, don' thave to.

Jizz, you basically are looking for someone to tell you that it's okay to be friends wiht her because you are having the urge to talk to her.

The fact that you are having that urge, tells me she is more than likely the only woman that you have right now, which is your first mistake.


As pook said, you either try to date alot of women, or none at all.. if you have one woman in your life, you start looking at her as LTR material, even when she may not be, which seems to be hte problem you seem to have... but hey, honestly now, you are ahead of 99.9 percent of the guys out there, as most have no clue, and most will stay around and declare their love to the girll like she is Helen of Troy.

MOve on for good, ,she isn't worth it. No girl is worth it.


Trust me, ,we know it's hard, it's very hard, but you have no reason to stay around... More importantly, say she does leave him for you.. what makes you think she won't do the same to YOU in the future?

 

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Originally posted by locarius
Why do you guys have such a problem having female friends?

Why do you have such a problem reading posts? He doesnt want the b!tches "friendship", he wants to fvck her.

Keep it up jizz and next time just respond with "Thanks for the offer but I've got enough friends, you take it easy babe"