She wants to be approached her body language doesn't match up

[sneakypete]

Well a female I know wants me to initiate conversation more often and even told me she wants me to send her letters in the mail, but her body language sends out disinterest. The words and the body language don't gel. Funny thing is she's super spontaneous in general. It is improving, she's opening up but she seems the most indifferent of the women I interact with. She's the only female I see on a regular basis that doesn't lock eyes and smile and say something flirty in passing, and sometimes just blows me off, though she'll approach and start talking other times. When we talk it looks like she looks beneath my eyes, and when I give eye contact her eyes visibly shift everywhere but my eyes. I smile at just about every young lady at work and they look back with a playful smile, but the one who verbally said she wants more of a connection doesn't return the smiles and eye contact that I send her way. The kino is one thing, it's had limited success. When I've tried to escalate, she doesn't really mirror it. How should I escalate it at this point?
Funny thing is she's got the impression I don't like her. What are good ways to add fun/light/flirty into the mix, something to make her feel good? Direct seems a good bet but I don't want to go down the "how YOUUU doin" route and make it awkward. She's super attractive so she get's "how YOU doin" all the time. A good thing though, we have a little competition going that she's determined to beat me in yet I've "spanked" her thus far, so it provides an ongoing source for banter. But yeah, when I actually do approach, I get "blown off" and she demonstrates indifference, so what should I do?

 

[scrouds]

Next.

 

[Son of anarchy]

Confusing and stressfull situation,and when someone make you confused or stressed..NEXT!

 

[sneakypete]

The dating situation here sucks, military base at my advanced training. I'm restricted to base right now so it's limiting my options. I did hear people say things about her being into me, and I notice her sit up straighter and put her body on display, a few times turning her back to me and her rear out there some after I make a funny comment. Witnesses have confirmed it's not in my head. A little persistance wouldn't hurt, considering I can't exactly drive off to a bar and meet women. When I actually do catch her glance and lock eyes, she gets embarrassed after bathing in the eye contact and smiles and blushes and acts shy. It's not exactly negative but we either click and it's great or it don't happen.

 

[scrouds]

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[pjtheman]

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[trajhenkhet02]

Too odd for my liking. Hope this is not someone you are a co worker with. Next.