she wants romance, i just want to fvck! help!

[garruk]

so ive been talking to this girl and i know for a fact that she's into me.

the problem is: i just want to fk her a few times and then just "be friends" with her. however, she seems to think that i am going to be her boyfriend someday.

in anycase, i was swindled into agreeing on a dinner date this sunday (it was orignally friday but i moved it to sunday). how can i speed through dinner and dive into the sack quickly? or better yet, anyone know a good way to circumvent dinner altogether?

background: ive known this girl for a little while (maybe half a year) and we've come close to hooking up twice at parties/clubbing but something always screws it up. (i got kicked out of the club once, and the other time i got way too trashed with my boys and blacked out)

 

[Gangster Of Love]

How were you "swindled into agreeing on a date"?

Your best bet is to either tell her to go cook for you and go see you or you see her, or to actually go through the dinner, without rushing and take things slow, all the way to bed.

I am willing to bet that you are falling for this one, and will further if she actually delays the sex; if she then sees you are desperate, and pulls back, you'll probably be here telling all of us you like this girl very much, etc.

Point is, always trust the process and don't rush through things. It's a game. A mating dance. A process.

 

[garruk]

there is no way that i am going to fall for this girl. i have other "plates" that i am spinning and there are girls that i am talking to that i would be willing to pursue a real relationship with, this girl is not one of them. she is attractive but uninteresting to talk to and a little immature at times (gets hyper like a little girl) and sometimes she wears too much makeup (lol).

i was "swindled" because we had agreed to "hang out" some time this week, then she texted me to ask if i was free on friday, which i responded that i was. she then jumped the whole dinner thing on me, and i had recently neglected her at a club (because another girl was also present and i was just feeling un-social due to just getting over the flu) so i was worried that i would dishearten her too much if i said no to dinner.

now here i am. the thing is, this girl was totally willing to do me before, and now i have to put up with dinner and stuff. ill try the cooking thing gangster and worse comes to worse, i will follow your plan, but im just a little frustrated because a few weeks ago (and at the club) she totally woulda went home with me-no frills and i could have avoided this trouble.