She wants me to be possesive?!?!

[slickaz]

ok im at work so this is very quick.
chic i been seeing.

she loves when i get possesive.

she tries to get me to show that im possesive and show that i get worked up when another guy is involved on hitting on her.

she will drop slight hints with a smile like, oh you're friend likes me i think.
or some guy hit on me at work..
and then she'll continue doing it till i get mad then she'll say
oh i like how you're so possesive of me..
i was only kiddin..im only interested in you..they can only look..but u can touch anywhere..

wtf do i do!!!

 

[bukowski_merit]

i am a firm believer in gaining control over your emotions to a level that anything short of someones death can't get to you...

this takes a lot of practice... and you really just have to keep reading stuff over and over about how unattractive it is to people when someone loses their cool... getting angry (even if that is what the woman wants) is not a good look... if she wants anger - not giving it to her will build the tension EVER MORE!

a woman comes home and says to me (i learned this style of passing sh!t test from franco; have tested them extensively with LTR and FBs, and can't ever imagine using any other method):

Woman: "some guy hit on me at work today"
Me: "really? was he hot?" (women will RARELY answer "yes" to this)
Woman: "he was alright, not really my type though"
Me: (pulling her to me and kissing her passionately) "well show me what you would have done if he was your type" (>escalate to sex - while talking to her like you're someone else the whole time)

contrary to what your brain is telling you - this will not make her want to have $ex with other guys. nor will it tell her that you think it's ok to have $ex with a guy if he is her type... it's just a very simple way to pass her sh!t test... and it works so well it's almost too easy...



she loves when you get possessive? don't get possessive... you gain nothing by giving her what she wants in this situation...

 

[trv26]

@ Bukowski

And what if she says the guy was in fact hot?

 

[bukowski_merit]

@ Bukowski

And what if she says the guy was in fact hot?

i'm KJing here - because i've never had that happen... but lets say it did happen - here's something along the lines of how i would react:

Me: "Was he hot?"
Her: "Yes. very much so" (she will most likely add something like "but i'm with you so i couldn't do anything")
Me: (pulling her into me, kissing, whispering in her ear) "well i hope he got you hot and ready for me" (kiss neck, behind ear, and then lead to sex)...

and then go from there...

again.. the biggest obstacle to overcome when delivering this style is being believable... keeping the seductive frame... and NEVER letting her make you jealous about anything besides cheating (At which point you dump her)...

the 2nd biggest obstacle is understanding that doing this will not make her cheat or think it's ok to flirt with other guys...

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this takes a lot of comfort and self-control to do... if you don't think you'd be comfortable doing this type of stuff - DON'T...

there's many other ways to pass sh!t test... this is just how i prefer to do it (i use other ways depending on the situation, but for most common ones - i use it as a way to escalate to $ex)
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Note 1: You of course cannot say the same thing everytime she tests you like this. What you say isn't as important as showing her you don't care in an EXTREME way, followed directly by sexual escalation.
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Note 2: If she's used to initiating the sex in your relationship - this probably won't work.
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Note 3: If she regularly turns down your sexual advances - this probably won't work (and why the hell are you with her anyway!)

 

[TheRealSupreme]

This is a very high form of insecurity on her part. And she has you all caught up in playing into her issues and her game.

She will eventually try to get you into a fight. It makes a freak like her feel wanted. I don't know if it's cause she has father issues or just plain old needs a lot of attention but you need to end that bull**** of hers.

Sit her down and tell her don't play that game with you.

Some women are also so submissive that they want to be OWNED. Try putting a collar on her ass.