"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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She wants appreciation..

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So theres this chick I've known for a year. Been friends the whole time, but then I decided to be a jerk after finding this site, and now she appears interested.
Only prob is. She thinks I don't appreciate her. After a neg hit she'll act all sad and say stuff like, "Why don't you appreciate me?" "Why do you hate me?" She says it with a joking tone, but you can tell she means it. Recently she added a 'To-do' entry in my phone saying, "Tell B how awesome she is". So shes looking for a little appreciation. But I've worked so hard getting out of the friendzone that I only know neg-hits.

Its odd because I do appreciate her, I'm happier when I'm around her and I like her alot, but I just don't tell her.
What are some DJ compliments without putting her on a pedestal?

Thanks for the help :cool:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You don't need compliments to get this girl.

Do a search on how to get out of the friend zone.

You don't need to neg-hit her all the time either.

You mention that you worked hard to get out of the friend zone by doing negs only?! (that's not how you get out of the friend zone)

A few ways are to be more playful/flirtacious, gradually increase kino, teasing her, C&F, etc.
 

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Chick: "Why don't you appreciate me?"
Guy: (In sweet tone)"I doooo.." (Back to normal tone) "Now get me a beer"


To complement her now that she ask you to. Grab a note when you are in front of her and pretend you a reading the note. Say "You are errr...so beautiful errr... today" like you're only just reading it and not meaning it.

Keep it fun... I'd increase kino too...
 

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Originally posted by bluelemond
You don't need compliments to get this girl.

Do a search on how to get out of the friend zone.

You don't need to neg-hit her all the time either.

You mention that you worked hard to get out of the friend zone by doing negs only?! (that's not how you get out of the friend zone)

A few ways are to be more playful/flirtacious, gradually increase kino, teasing her, C&F, etc.
Not just the neg-hits, we play alot more now and are more flirtacious as well, but neg-hits seem to be my specialty.

I'll try the, "I doooo.." (Back to normal tone) "Now get me a beer".
Also she thinks I'm too mean. She "misses the days when I was nice". So yeah. I'll need to tone it down.
Things are much better now I'm not an AFC loser who just complimented her, the convos are more fun when we are teasing each other, even she said so.
 
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