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She visits her ex's house frequently

Broham

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So the girl I'm seeing now told me that she frequently visits her ex's house; however she doesn't really talk to her ex. I guess she's close with his parents and brothers. Should I even consider this to be a red flag? Comments/thoughts?
 

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A woman when she is with a man should only have one star in the night that she see's. That man. For your girlfriend to be still involved with her ex's family in my opinion is not a good thing.

There are some issue's that she can't let go of. Often a woman will be trying to get back at the ex by showing up constantly with his family. Becoming a constant irratant to that guy.

Maybe it's time for you two to sit down and talk about your relationship and where you both would like it to go.
 

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Ok guys, let's back up a little. I have not committed to anything with her. I've only been seeing her for a few weeks. Frankly, I wouldn't care if she still hung out with her ex. A few years ago I would've been enraged, but I really couldn't give two shtts. This girl comes from a broken home and lives with her grandma, so I can see how she may want a surrogate family. If this interferes with my relationship with her though, she's gone.
 

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At the early stage of a relationship, if there is one, don't expect her to be exclusive to you, especially if there is an ex lingering in the background.
 

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You should change the title of this thread to:

She fvcking he Ex regularly

Sorry, but it had to be said.
 

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Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
You should change the title of this thread to:

She fvcking he Ex regularly

Sorry, but it had to be said.
She told me he doesn't speak to her. So you're saying he nods to her and they fvck?
 

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No. He is saying that she is lying to you about her not seeing him.
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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ya really...what chicks say and do are two entirely different things.
 

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Of coarse there is something going on with those two. She cannot be close to his family without his approval. When the ex lurks in the background its always a bad thing. But if you just want to fvck her and not LTR then hey have fun.

Oh and by the way you can almost be certain that a chick that comes from a broken home and living with grandma has skeletons in her closets which will come out once you get to know her better.
 

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Originally posted by DJDamage
Oh and by the way you can almost be certain that a chick that comes from a broken home and living with grandma has skeletons in her closets which will come out once you get to know her better.
Amen.
 

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Originally posted by Broham
She told me he doesn't speak to her. So you're saying he nods to her and they fvck?
That's not all we do, chief. I hit that s**t from all angles, including obtuse ones.
I'll f**k her on tape and send you a copy.
 

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Originally posted by baracus
That's not all we do, chief. I hit that s**t from all angles, including obtuse ones.
I'll f**k her on tape and send you a copy.
Really? Can you autograph it for me?


Seriously, I'm just going to keep it light and sexual only. I have no intentions about learning about her ex or her warped past. Unfortunately she's my only prospect right now b/c I haven't had time to socialize due to work/interviewing/the gym.

I'll be honest though, I have been putting some pressure on myself to start a relationship. I'm getting sick the dating process and I just want to relax for awhile. I know I should be qualifying tons of women but I just don't have the time right now to do so.
 

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I hear you. I've been in the same situation. You gotta be careful, though. That's how you end up settling for the wrong woman.

When "relationship" is on the brain, you're very susceptible to ignoring the red flags the chick you're seeing is waving.

Good luck.
 
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